Looking for your stories 🙂 Mutual decision not to be with "the love of my life" due to timing but we are holding out hope we come back together in the near future.

[abracadabra02]

Has anyone any experience in relationships with this?
Have you come back together?
Did you never rekindle?

I fell in love/am in love.. with a man who is everything I could have hope for and more but for both he and I, our timing is wrong. Out of fear that this would cause issues for us, we have decided to part ways, very difficultly..but we hold hope that in our future, when we are both in a better place and things will be easier..that we will come back together.

Their are many factors which determine the timing..even though we are both certain of our feelings for eachother and so compatible, this is the correct decision for now, none the less, both of us are so determined in time..we will come back together.
So I hold out hope for that 🤞

I am hoping I don't receive too many "just go for it" responses or "must not be right for eachother if you choose not to be" as I know our decision right now is correct..but hoping to hear some happy and positive "love" stories 🙂❤️

After reading your previous thread I don't really understand why you'd want to be with a 30 year old man who's too frightened to tell his parents he's got a girlfriend who was married with children.

You're right to concentrate on building a life for yourself and your children OP and think in time you'll see that someone afraid of their parents disapproval (for no good reason) is not a catch or a good bet.

I understand the need to figure out who you are, outside of a relationship. However by parting like this, you're taking a gamble that he will meet someone else. Presumably you're not expecting him to wait for you? I think (being honest!) if you're willing to take that risk it's an indicator that your feelings maybe aren't as strong as you think they are.

Ours was he wanted to go travelling abroad, so he did. 2 months later he missed me so much he came home, (sad loser 🤣🤣🤣) 20 or so years later still together.

OP why such drama? Why not see him on a casual basis? A few dates here and there?

I have a couple of tales to offer
I met my Wife when we were both late teens,were infatuated with each other and had so much in common but suffered a miscarriage early into the relationship which led to us breaking up soon after.We both dated other people and then about a year after we split ended up back together and were married for 20 years and had a family etc until we divorced amicably and still remain friends.
Recently ive just split up with the love of my life,shes 52 and displays all of the symptoms of being menopausal, hasnt had a period for 3 years ,is manically depressed including threats of suicide and being signed off from work but wont accept any help or medication which has made our situation unworkable as she blames me for all of the above,she has a history of depression and suiciday tendencies dating back to long before she knew me.
We are currently no contact for the last 3 months and im praying that she reaches out for help so that we could resolve our situation but deep down i know she wont.

Calling @abracadabra02

Come back to earth.

None of this feels like it's based in reality.
Pie in the sky dreams, parents not approving when in thirties.
Have to end it although both single and madly in love.

Sorry but it's crackers.

It's hard to disagree with taking things slowly when there are children involved. Of course your children will always come first. But it is possible to build a relationship slowly while not involving your children. I'm not sure why, if you love this man so much, you'd want to not see him, even if you take things super slow.

There isn't just one person for every person on the planet. It just doesn't work like that. So it isn't like, if you're apart, none of you will find someone else. There is a risk that one or both of you will meet someone in the meantime. Someone better matched, or more available. If that's a risk you're willing to take, then fair enough. Being in a relationship isn't the be all and end all.

It just seems an odd decision if you both genuinely agree you're madly in love.

Thank you. This is refreshing. I know this can happen, unfortunate so many posters don't think it can. Very happy for your lovely story. I think, the same as you, that choosing its not the right time..Will only benefit us positively, if we choose to be together in our near future.