Looking for your stories 🙂 Mutual decision not to be with "the love of my life" due to timing but we are holding out hope we come back together in the near future.

[abracadabra02]

Has anyone any experience in relationships with this?
Have you come back together?
Did you never rekindle?

I fell in love/am in love.. with a man who is everything I could have hope for and more but for both he and I, our timing is wrong. Out of fear that this would cause issues for us, we have decided to part ways, very difficultly..but we hold hope that in our future, when we are both in a better place and things will be easier..that we will come back together.

Their are many factors which determine the timing..even though we are both certain of our feelings for eachother and so compatible, this is the correct decision for now, none the less, both of us are so determined in time..we will come back together.
So I hold out hope for that 🤞

I am hoping I don't receive too many "just go for it" responses or "must not be right for eachother if you choose not to be" as I know our decision right now is correct..but hoping to hear some happy and positive "love" stories 🙂❤️

Sorry no, if it’s right, you’d be together. When Dh and I met, we were living in a foreign country and our home countries were on opposite sides of the world from each other. We only had a few months together before our visas expired and we each had to return home with no way of being permanently in the same country for the next couple of years.

We made it work long distance. We each traveled to see each other a few times a year until we could sort out a visa and a wedding to move and be together in the same country. We never questioned if we could make it happen because we knew we were meant to be together. That was 15 years ago now and happily married since.

I really do think if you wanted to be together you would be, even if it’s long distance or you can’t see each other often. Otherwise, it risks that one (both?) of you are just making excuses not to make the leap.

Why can’t you be together now? How old are you both? How married are you both?

I think you are looking for a movie story. In real life, if you wanted to be together, you would make it work now. If it is correct that you are not together, then it is correct and I would not expect that to change.

Life's short and you're messing about as if life is a romance novel. Neither of you are each other's 'one' hence you're not together.

The million dollar question.

I have a friend who reunited with his first love, 45 years after they broke up.
Unfortunately he broke up the family he had created with his second love by doing this. His adult child (with his second partner) is no longer speaking to him. Very difficult situation for everyone involved, except the happy couple, I guess.

Not my story ,but my friends . She has literally just sent me a picture of her with her partner 12 years ago . They split up and now 12 years later they are together,madly in love and living the life. Am so happy for them . It really can happen.

If you both felt that strongly for each other, you'd move heaven and earth to make it work. Nothing would stop you, not even an existing partner. Guessing one of you is married and it's them saying now is not the right time? If so, that person is lying.

But time waits for no one.

My thoughts exactly!

@abracadabra02 your post is just too vague. You need to give an inkling of an idea to get people to engage.

Really cynical about the whole ‘bad timing’ thing.

Are you both living in different countries? Is he about to move to Minsk for a job?
Or is one / both of you in relationships?

If it is the latter then :
a) if you are both just dating other people, then obviously the answer is to break up with whoever you are both with, and be with each other.

b) if one or both of you are married, then you break up with your spouse and be together.

You’re not doing your current partners any favours by being with them but daydreaming about ‘ the one who got away’

Somebody isn't being truthful here I think, May be you, may be him but there's defo a mismatch of commitment

Is this an affair?

I remember your previous thread. His family don't approve of you being newly separated with DC.

Sorry, but if he really loved you, he'd stand up to them.

Sounds like there’s more to your post than you wrote OP

I've just read your previous post and OP you really need to come back down to earth on this one.

This bloke is not madly in love with you and should absolutely not be everything you ever wanted. He won't even tell his parents to mind their own business! Instead he told you that you should wait for 'better timing'. So when will they accept you? When your last kid turns 18?

Charles and Camilla made it work.

So i looked at your post history and here is your old op
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4895327-what-would-you-choose-love-or-parents?postsby=abracadabra02

If he loved you he would've married you regardless of his family and gossip. He isn't into you enough. Men go against their religion, give up their crown and kingdom, risk their reputation and professional careers, move continents .. basically move heaven and earth to be with a woman when they wabt her bad enough. Hw won't wait for you either, you are deluding yourself.

Sorry but I personally don’t believe in “right person, wrong timing”. If it was meant to be, it’d be. I’m assuming one of you is married, as someone has said above, I wouldn’t waste my time waiting for it to be the “right time” for the other person. They are having their cake and eating it too.

Yes me. I met someone when I was 23 and we were both students. We broke up and back together over a twelve year period. A bit When Harry met Sally. Then got married and had dcs - we’ve been married a long time and are very happy.
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Ah I have read the links to your previous posts OP.

It doesn’t sound like this is a ‘wrong time’ situation. It’s the ‘wrong person’.

He is either being spineless or he just doesn’t care enough for you. Neither is acceptable and neither is due to bad timing.

What will time actually change?

Are you waiting for an acceptable time since your divorce (in his parents eyes)? Or are you waiting for your children to be grown up? Or are you waiting for his parents to die?

Er. No. This isn't a movie.

Judging by your previous thread its clear you fell in love a little too quick after seperating but there's nothing inherently wrong with that. However for him you are not good enough to introduce to his family, which is horrible in my opinion.

The love of your life will follow you to the ends of the earth, not run because mummy and daddy wouldn't approve.

Value yourself more than this. Please.

Agree with the other pps. If he really truly loved you he wouldn't care what his parents think. When will the timing be right? When his parents are dead?
If he cant/won't stand up to them then he's not the one for you x

Ha. We did this. Lasted two weeks before we gave in.