I’ve seen many of these kinds of messages before (I’m in a loving, honest, open relationship but I come across a LOT who only say they are). I’ve been part of these exchanges more times than I can count, until I find out they are not in an open relationship, as claimed. He’s got feck all going on with her, he’s trying to impress her and I would say from the messages that he is almost certainly cheating on you with other women, or trying to.
He’s a cold bastard and will have zero remorse when you catch him out…then he’ll gaslight until you find firm proof, then he’ll claim something like a sex addiction/promise to change to avoid being kicked out, play at going to therapy maybe, while being more careful with who he texts and how. He’ll continue to get off with whatever he can in the meantime, as it’s the only thing that feeds his ego, trying to fill a restless void inside that’s never full.
When he knows that he can’t get away with it any more or he feels the net closing in, he’ll turn it around on you - it’s your fault he’s leaving, you should have shown him more intimacy while you were together, you’re never there for him, you’re not interested in him any more. He’ll likely line up someone else during this time…the ones I’ve known have also often had a rainy day bank account that they’ve been saving into, for bonuses and skimmed money etc, to both pay for the play (hotel rooms can’t be showing up in the joint bank account) and as a cushion if he has to leave.
Look for Wickr, Snapchat, Line, Signal and Telegram apps as a starter for ten. On his Whatsapps, swipe down on the Chats screen and see if he has any muted chats in his archive (it only appears if you swipe down). Check his browser history for plenty of fish or fab swingers.
I’m sorry. Maybe, just maybe, it’s all talk. Trying to impress some girl who he thinks is cool, like some kind of moronic teenager.
But, in reality, from my experience, I’d say he’s got no respect for you, he’ll actually secretly and maybe even subconsciously hold you in disdain…like he thinks he’s doing you a favour by staying in your life because he’s somehow better than you and you should consider yourself lucky that he’s sticking around. By talking about or doing these things, I wouldn’t say that he sees you as his equal, or worth his respect, friendship or decency. Therefore, in his head, the rules don’t apply to him and he is entitled, no less, to do what he wants behind your back and celebrate his trophies with randomers.
I don’t need to tell you that you’re worth a hundred of someone like that, or that you have more decency in the top joint of your little finger than they have in their entire bodies. I really, really, really try not to judge, and I didn’t in the early days. But I’ve seen the same whining excuses and boastful bragging, that I can’t help it any more and I can spot it a mile off.
Find out the truth either way and then please, if you do find out it’s true…play him at his own game, no matter how much you want to explode or cry. Put all that in a box, pretend you’re hoodwinked and take as long as you need to excise him out of your life with the minimum of impact on you and with everything you need to thrive.
Tldr: I think he might be a scuzzy, cold-hearted cheater and you need to verify and play the long game to get rid of him if he is.