DH getting obsessed with what I eat

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I’m a bit overweight and I eat too much sugar, but otherwise I’m quite active and my diet isn’t too bad. I recently had a blood test done that showed raised cholesterol. Since then my DH is obsessed with what I eat. I’ve already changed my diet since the test result and eliminated sweets and high carb foods (as I wanted to myself) - I had zero sweets and only healthy food all week - but he just saw me open a door of my chocolate advent calendar and lost it, he thinks I’m trying to kill myself with sugar because of these 5g chocolate 🙄
In the conversation that followed he said we’ll need to bring our own food to my parents’ Christmas dinner because their food won’t meet our diet requirements, and that we can only drink mineral water.

He’s not normally controlling and he will follow the same diet to support me as he says, although his health is perfect, but I see a very stressful Christmas time coming up. I agree in general with improving my diet and I’m fully on board, but how can I stop him being an extremist about it?

Oh absolutely yes it's always best to listen to your doctor.

There's a million different ways to do any diet though.There's no such thing as 'a' vegan diet in the same way as there's no such thing as 'an' omnivorous diet. The way everyone eats depends on their own design.
Hell, I'd be sick too if I only ate mock meats for example xD

Why have you even got an advent as a grown woman? (he'd better not have got it you)

What IS this obsession with an adult woman having an advent calendar and posters thinking they have the right to scold the OP over it?

"veg or worse"
Are you proposing a meat only diet is the only possible healthy one?

The advent calendar obsession is hilarious, I’m almost tempted to start an AIBU 😂
There was a lot of helpful advice on this thread, thank you. I had good chats with DH over the weekend and he’s calmed down now. He is more disciplined restrictive than I am when it comes to diet and a healthy lifestyle, but he said that he’s totally on board with whatever I want to do. I suggested a healthy but delicious meal yesterday for us and he went above and beyond with the cooking. He’s out of the dog house now (lighthearted!!).

Mineral water at Christmas?

No.
His actions go beyond concern.

You're an adult, do what you need to do for you, ignore him.

Good to hear, one poster said he sounds anxious rather than controlling and if he's calmed down then that was probably correct.

Nice one, OP

If he repeats this again I would tell him to back the fuck off. He is seriously overstepping.

Good outcome OP. My cholesterol is a little high and my BMI is 24.8. My GP told me to try and eat fewer fatty foods and to try and eat more brown rice, wholemeal bread and pasta etc. DH was a bit worried but at no point has he tried to prevent me enjoying normal christmas food or my advent calendar.

Anyone who wants to stop me having an advent calendar will have to prise it out of my cold, dead hands.