Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Crush on younger man

79 replies

AgentK · 29/11/2023 23:35

I’m 42 and really fancy a 23 year old I know through a hobby I do. I don’t know if I have no chance or even if he likes me but I do keep thinking about him. There’s a bit of flirting but I don’t know how to approach anything else! How do I work out if he likes me or just thinks I’m way too old for him!
is the age gap just too much to have any hope?
im not really looking for anything serious having just come out of an ltr but just wondering how to ascertain if he’s interested without making an absolute fool of myself or if it’s just a non starter with that sort of age gap

OP posts:
Pinkdelight3 · 02/12/2023 17:27

Freakinfraser · 02/12/2023 13:36

It’s 23, and it’s not far off it.

OP followed up saying Found out he’s 24 not 23

EmmaEmerald · 02/12/2023 17:59

Freakinfraser · 01/12/2023 16:43

The age gap isn’t the issue, none of these partners are early 20s. If they were the issue would be the same.

but what if they met before, that would make it okay? It's interesting because my ex also thinks people won't judge the age gap so much when he's older.

I think Kate Beckinsale's boyfriends have been 20s but...what is "the issue"?

I will say I don't think I could have dated the MN stereotype of a 24 year old, who might still be living with parents and a couple of years out of uni. Or maybe I could, I don't know, I don't want to be prejudiced.

My ex worked from 16 and has been amazingly supportive this year (I've been unwell). His support didn't stop for more than about three days after I ended it.
.
As for the music/film comment someone made, one of the reasons we get on so well is having that type of thing in common. No one else is going to listen to me blether on with script analysis.

Some people look older. He looks a bit like Chandler on the last season Friends, I'm thinking Matthew Perry was 30 by then?

I was always scared of being mistaken for his mum, I admire the poster who doesn't give a crap. I think we were okay - not a stealth brag - but to some extent I have the "black don't crack" thing. My older sister looks younger than I do because she is slim and does whatever Meghan Markle does to her hair.

I think the friendship will have to end when he gets a girlfriend but I still get people asking me why I ended it.

Sometimes I wonder it myself tbh. I do rather dread him getting a girlfriend.

Burntouted · 03/12/2023 02:03

There are are plenty of women that do the same things you've listed..to other men and women.. why is it acceptable to you when a woman grooms, and is abusive??

Only some men and women do this, not all.

dragonshreya8 · 06/02/2024 11:18

This reply has been deleted

This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page