Hello.
Legend? 😂
I can assure you I wear no cape- I am no hero, I am no mentor. I was a desperate woman at the end of her tether who had to be smart. So I pooled from lots of women’s knowledge and started to plan
I just tried my best to fairly prepare a future life for my children and take on a bullying and coercive husband from a very wealthy family.
Apparently there were quite a few posters who wanted an update. Apologies for fleeing. It became clear journalists were interested in the story so I bailed.
Now here’s the best bit.
in my marriage I had no voice
I was ridiculed, belittled and made to believe that I was stupid, ugly and not enough for my ex. I learned that my ex had not only been caught out cheating by me- he’d been cheating for the best part of 17 years. When things become public it’s extraordinary who comes forward with details. I’m very grateful to those whistle blowers, they will always have a seat at my tiny table.
During our subsequent and drawn out divorce I took on his £3k a day barristers on my own and won- not bad for a ‘fat useless twat’ eh? 😄
I’m free now, all of my children have gone on to ace their lives and I have found true love with a man who of course has flaws but who shows me daily that he’s lucky to have me, he values me and I make his life better. It’s no fairytale but life goes on.
keep swimming my friends, put one foot in front of the other and show up. Take one hour at a time and congratulate yourself for not wobbling.
You will find peace again…baby steps x
Love Coats
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