My heart is broken and I just don't know what to do.
Recently I have been feeling more than ever that my husband is distant and places himself into family life when it suits him. We've had quite a few discussions and he's said "I'm sorry that you feel like that" and things have been a bit better. Out of no where yesterday the bombshell came, he's not happy and no longer wants to continue with our marriage. We're parents to the most wonderful toddler who doesn't deserve this, my husband has suffered with depression a couple of years in due to the stress of the birth. He says he can't continue because it's not fair on me, he's unhappy. He says I don't make him unhappy but I also don't make him happy. He says he doesn't know why he's unhappy but he knows he can't live the rest of his life like this. I have pleaded with him to try marriage counselling, he refuses saying it won't sort this. He assures me there's nobody else, I half believe him. He says he knows he's the world's worst husband right now to do this but he has to. Yet he can't give me enough reasons as to what is making him unhappy. My heart is broken, I can't sleep or eat, it's killing me. I thought we were happy. He's fast asleep and was making his tea whilst I was in bed with sick toddler. The most upsetting part is, he says that he confided in a family member back in April that he wasn't happy and he's apparently been trying since then to change how he feels. I can't see any evidence of him trying and he won't even give our marriage and family life a chance. He will still continue to be a dad to our toddler and will not shirk responsibility, but cannot try for his wife. I'm so devastated for the life I dreamt of.