Quick packing now. Help?

[theajon]

Without going into it I'm leaving an abusive H now. I have 4 hours max. to pack. I have somewhere to go.

My brain cannot think.
I know I should be doing not posting here. I've been standing here with an empty rucksack in my hands for 10 minutes or more.

What do I need to take? It is only me, I have a medium sized family car which I can fill.

All docs are with my solicitor.

girl don't reply to anyone, get packing! go for it, YOUVE GOT THIS!!!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Brilliant tip!!

Wishing you the best of luck, you're being incredibly strong!

Some great lists here - one to remember is chargers for your electronics.

And handbags! Smart, casual, expensive, prettiest, most loved, whatever is most appropriate for you.

Good luck OP. Don't waver! Take everything connected to your emails/social media even if it's a bulky desktop PC. Address book if you have it. Take a minute to imagine a typical day and go through everything you need from toiletries, toothpaste, clothes right through to a day at work, any hobbies, dressing gown and slippers. Think of what you would rescue in a fire. Double lock the doors from inside while you do it if you can.

Internet banking machine to log in
Anything you might need to set up any new accounts - ID etc. birth certificate, marriage certificate. Driving licence, car log book.

Just want to join in with the hugs; and take anything sentimental or valuable.

Don’t worry about not replying, it’s not rude you’re doing great!

Just posting to send you some love and wish you all the best in your future.

If you’ve got a car to load, I would take bin bags and just empty your drawers and wardrob into them and stuff the car as full as you can get. No thinking, just scoop the lot, as much as you can take.
duvet/pillows/towels depending on where you are staying? Don’t pack, just load the car and ram it all in if you have room where you are going/can store at someone’s. You can think the other side and sort through.

Sorry, bin bags have already been suggested. I 100% agree with this.

I don’t have anything more practical to add to anything other posters have already suggested.

but am thinking of you and please let us know when you get to wherever you’re going to this evening. You’re brave, amzing and doing the right thing

Delete internet history? Good luck OP

Wishing you the very best , you are very brave xx

Wishing u all the best. Maybe your pillow? As other Pillows sometimes just don't feel right. Favourite mug/cup. Dressing gown. Slippers.

Hope it went well OP !

If anyone is still around, I'm sorry that I didn't write this sooner.

I'm out I am safe I can't sleep.
Got here and unpacked a few things.

Am still reeling, trying to calm down and process it all.
Have I done the right thing? I know I have.
Even so nothing feels right yet.
This weekend is going to be weird.

Thank you everyone for all of your help.
If anyone knows of any tips to feel happier or calmer or more like me. I would appreciate them.

Apparently I cannot punctuate either tonight.

Absolutely don't feel sorry. Of course you did the right thing, the really tough bit is done and it will steadily get better.

It's understandable that you'll have trouble sleeping from all the adrenaline, can you have a nice long shower to shake off the day, and try breathing exercises or meditation, or read a light book? Silly sitcoms on your phone are good distractions too.

You'll be OK. Just take one step at a time.

It's normal to wonder if you've done the right thing. It's normal to miss your ex and your relationship even though it wasn't right - that doesn't mean you've made a bad decision, that's just a natural part of the process.

Keep reminding yourself why you left and think of yourself aged 5,10, 15 and what they would tell you , keep focused on forward.

Deep breaths.

Slowly breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, gently blow the stress away. Remind yourself you are on the road to freedom now.

Good luck OP. Well done for getting out xxx

So glad you got out OP. I'm a bit of a weirdo but I can relax a lot better with a cold shower, especially if I'm really tense. Otherwise, don't lie down and try to sleep if you're too agitated - just sit quietly in the dark for a bit, maybe with an herbal tea. Unviperlike hugs.

I’ve just picked up your thread. Well done! I hope you’re managing to catch up on some sleep.

Well done love 🥰 you've made such an important step.

You should be so proud of yourself. A whirlwind of emotions will be expected but this is the first step to your new abuse free life.

Others have offered some real good advice for relaxing, a long shower and some deep breaths work for me.

Silly animal videos? Hope you are able to get some real life support too. 💐💐💐

welcome to the rest of your life. Congratulations! My advice would be to take this weekend to be extra special to yourself. Do something, just for you, that makes you feel happy. That you enjoy. Put yourself first! Maybe something you used to do, but haven’t been able to lately?

and be gentle on yourself. You don’t have to apologise, to anyone at all. X