Hubby wont get his passport renewed

[karenza83]

what would you do. we are due to go away in 6 weeks for my birthday, it is a special one and booked back in march. when booking mine and my hubs passport was due to run out in august, so we decided that we would wait to update them. here is the thing - I have, all sorted and back. I have raised this several times with my husband and he just is like yeah yeah yeah. i really dont know what to do. i have kind of given up asking, this is something that he needs to do. he looks so diffrent to the picture from ten years ago.
do i just stop asking and let him miss out.
do i just try and use his old photo and hope for the best.
do i just go on my own and try and enjoy it as best i can.

@00100001 I totally appreciate your sentiment and share it in theory😅

He clearly doesn't want to go or wants to ruin the occasion - or both.

I'd plan to happily go without him. It will infuriate him.

Why is he trying to ruin your trip, the useless clod?

Go without him! And then use the time to reassess your life. Perhaps there are many things that would be better without him.

This.

I think i would like for him to make the effort. I would do it for him. he dosent fly so we are going by train. I am not sure how much more I can accomodate. I did mine as well, minutes and done, back in 14 days.

Don't do it for him op. That's just continuing to enable poor behaviour. He knows he had to do it. I have ADHD and getting this shit sorted in a timely manner can be a nightmare (I self sabotage and leave things to the last minute etc, and then get stressed) so I have have systems in place to ensure I don't shoot myself in the foot!

Assuming he's not undiagnosed with a ND issue that he's not worked out how to manage, he needs to understand that actions (or lack of them) have consequences (actually even if he is ND, he needs to learn that).

So you are going by train when you could have flown, to accommodate him?

He'd damn well better show up for this holiday then!

I'd be furious if he lets you down now.

So, 6 week's time means the trip is just before Christmas. Would you be minded to share where you are going so people could give you ideas of lovely things to do? Perhaps it is time to prioritise yourself and your enjoyment and stop angsting over a sullen useless man-baby! Are you travelling independently of as part of an escorted group? Have you checked out Plan B regarding changing names on bookings? You may not need this info but always useful to know in good time. Stop overseeing whether or not he has kept his end of the bargain and concentrate on planning your pleasure/interest/enjoyment!!!

OP have you told him that you are going with or without him?

Yes and also that this the very last time you reminding him.

Honestly some men are like children.

Just say "let's do it now", then take the photo on your phone and fill in the application.
Not worth ruining the holiday for, unless you've got other reasons not to go with him.

Why should she? He's perfectly capable...

I bet he doesn't struggle to get things like forms filled in for work, or applications for loans, buy himself tickets online to an event and get himself there, or remember to take his car in for MOT etc

It's not the OP who would be responsible for ruining the holiday. She already reminded him to do it. That's more than enough

Yes but it’s her holiday I’m talking about. If she wants him to come, then it’s easy to sort it. If she’s not bothered, or doesn’t want him to come, then leave him to it.

She does want him to come. She just doesn't want to have to act like his mammy.

If he wants to come, then it’s easy to sort it. Why should the OP spend her time and energy doing this for him?