Hello
just had a weird experience with a guy I met online. Wanted some perspectives
we started speaking online and he was immediately very flattering & being extremely nice and so on. He wanted to meet quite quickly, we did and on the meeting he told me he wants to be with me and that he ‘really likes me’. I told him you can’t like someone so quickly but he kept on insisting they he never met anyone like me before. After the first date he was on my case 24/7 always texting if I didn’t reply immediately he would have issues saying where am I, and I noticed on days that I wouldn’t respond to him immediately that same night he would go cold towards me
did have a second date, it was dark and cold he wanted to go for a walk in the perk and he said let’s go over there where the benches are it was really dark and no lights so I said no I’m scared of the dark (lol) and I don’t want to go there. We carried on walking and somehow we ended up in the dark spot. He stopped and took his hand out for me to hold it I felt uncomfortable so said no, he said give me a hug at least; again I said no. He then decided to start kissing me on my face (not lips) and grabbing my arm and holding me I told him let’s carry on walking and he let go but whilst walking back decided to give me a few more pecks on the cheek
anyway I went home. He asked me later that night if I’m upset I said no. However I said to him that I don’t appreciate him kissing me even though it was more of like a sweet kiss rather than anything more but he said oh my feelings were too strong I couldn’t help it I could have done more but I didn’t… wtf
anyway I did for whatever reason carry on chatting to him. He told me he’s got feelings for me and has never felt like this for a woman. I told him you don’t know me you don’t have feelings for me but he would keep on saying I love you and this was only after a week of meeting him. He would call me and say he loves me keep on insisting I say it back to which I wouldn’t and then he’d just say oh I know you’re shy
he wanted to have a third date and wanted to come to my house. Something didn’t set right with me so I text him on the morning of the date and said I can’t make it. He then sent me a massive essay saying he would never have had the courage to cancel how could I cancel and so on. He then finished the text with an ultimatum that if I don’t make things exclusive with him, he will go. I responded saying that’s fine go I’m still getting to know you so that’s not an issue
he didn’t like my response. He was arguing with me all day and kept on insisting to come over to ‘talk in person’ I said no he then said I’m too arrogant and said he willl go away. I said no worries go
the next morning he messaged me again saying do I think it’s acceptable to tell him to go when im in the wrong. I said you’re the one that said you don’t want to speak so I won’t stop you. Anyway he kept doing this where he would pretend he’s going, I’d say go and delete his number and then he would message me on another app as I blocked him on watsap having a hissy fit that I didn’t tell him to stay
somehow we got through that and he said he wants to marry me and I need to make things exclusive asap again I told him I hardly know you. He called me for quite a while and was being extremely charming and nice on the phone. The next day in the morning he started with his shit again saying he’s going to be busy all day - I said that’s fine I won’t message you. However he kept on messaging me questioning me on why I have always been so quick to tell him to go the times he’s wanted to. I told him stop going on about the same old stuff and he came out with I think I’m too special and need to humble myself lol
anyway he kept on going on and on. I stopped responded to him so he asked if he should leave me alone I said yes please do. Then he said oh stop trying to make out like I’m chasing you when I’m not. I said I didn’t say that, you asked if you should leave me alone and I said yes. He didn’t like this. He then said to me that I can’t offer him anything but he can offer me everything and that he would still marry me tomorrow. I told him that I’m not interested in him at all and to leave me alone
he absolutely did not like this and said u don’t get to choose whether you want to be with me or not! I’ll choose! I was like wtf
anyway he stopped chatting to me and I thought thank god but again in the night started texting and this time being really nasty saying he would never be with someone like me in the first place, that I can’t be the woman he wants to be. Bla bla. I just said ok and have blocked him off everything. The whole thing was so weird I hardly spoke to him for long. In person and on phone he was so nice but on text not so nice. I don’t know what on Earth I’ve expericned???!!!