Instagram - help me understand if husband is looking at other women

[Confusedlady84]

Evening!

sorry I posted this on 30 days only but should have posted it here. Will ask for the other one to be taken down.

I’m going to lean on you lovely lot to help me get to the bottom of something that’s been playing on my mind. I’m not great on socials…so here goes. Today I saw my husband’s Instagram explore page and it was full of semi naked women. Not sports women, we are talking women dressed provocatively showing as much boob / arse as possible. So I’m guessing for so many of those images to pop up (I would say they took up 80/90% of the page) it must mean he’s looking at that content? I checked who he’s following and it doesn’t appear to be anything like that so I have a feeling he will tell me it’s just Insta throwing up suggested images unrelated to him but I don’t want to be taken for a mug because I’m not entirely sure how it works. Years ago he kept watching porn and I told him it makes me feel crap. I get that men will do what they want but it was literally an hour after we’d had sex and he was downloading so much content. I don’t know if he still watches it - we’ve gone on to have children and I haven’t been that fussed to check / question him. But today’s findings have thrown me and made me feel really rubbish. Am I right in thinking he’s looking at these women on the quiet??
TIA!

@Janetime oh i agree, I can’t erase what’s in his head or stop him finding other women attractive. I guess it’s knowing he’s looking at all this stuff while im in the house too looking after our children. Definitely doesn’t help that I’m not particularly confident in the way I look and I understand that’s my own insecurities and not to do with him. That said he doesn’t ever compliment me and if I ever say I would love to have things tucked / changed he instantly jumps to boobs and whether I should get a boob job? Which obviously makes me feel more self conscious! So I guess it’s the bigger picture - how I view myself, how he views me and what he is looking at to get his kicks.

@Brexile oh my god such a difference in what insta throws up for men and women! Definitely not inundated with images of hot naked men. Shame, maybe he could have a taste of his own medicine if I laid in bed scrolling through pics of men with better physiques and bigger penises! 😀

@Bobbotgegrinch Thanks for the male perspective. Yep, I can’t imagine insta / porn sites are full of the type of woman you described 😃 have to say though, I am 99.9999% sure that my husband wouldn’t be looking them up if they were. My husband looks at all sorts of types - often the opposite to me in terms of hair/ skin tone etc. The one thing they all do have in common though is big boobs! 🙄

The first step might be to have an open and honest conversation with your husband about what you discovered on his Instagram page. He may have an explanation for this content that will help you better understand his motivations.
There is a possibility that the suggested images you saw were generated by Instagram's algorithm based on previous views or interactions with similar content. Discussing this with your husband may help figure out if there are other reasons or specific interests involved.

why do u feel disrespected? He’s just looking at women online, not having sex with them. Stop being so insecure and accept that he’s doing what 99% of guys do.

99% of guys watch porn and pictures of hot women, even the ones dating supermodels. It’s not about you. He’d be doing this with any woman. You’re gonna have to accept that he’ll continue watching this no matter how much you work on your body. That or break up with him, but the next guy you end up being with would be watching it too

I’m a straight woman and watch more porn than my boyfriend 😆
I think you need to let this go he hasn’t done anything wrong?!

Hi.
I’ve been married for 45 years. Ever since the internet and social media came on the scene I have known my husband looks at provocative women. He doesn’t pay anything, he has never strayed, he looks to get a quick erection and to masturbate.
I hate it, it makes me physically sick. However, we can’t have sex, I have a vulval problem and he has to satisfy his needs.
We will never understand what men need. They are weird, I’m just grateful mine has stayed loyal
Maybe your husband wants more sex than you, but whether he does or doesn’t they will still masturbate and it’s a quick, no expense, no physical damage way of having quick relief.