What do you think this meant

[leemajor]

My oh got annoyed about something small today and as they went out because they were saying stuff under breath I looked on camera after
And heard

'This whole house it's all backhanders'

What does anyone think my oh was getting at as obvious wasn't said to my face but said under breath when annoyed?

There's no expectation of privacy with a doorbell camera is what I'm getting at - claiming that the op is spying is absolutely bonkers.

Clean the shit up is no 1 advice.

re what she said, could she have meant:

It’s all (shit) bag handlers here
its all spy cams here
its all passive aggression here
its all attack anyone who doesn’t agree with you here
its all god given right to watch my partner in the street without her knowing here
its all calling your partner a lunatic here

I don’t think you sound all that nice tbh.

I agree
OP getting a hard time.

@icallitasplodge
‘ its all shit bag handlers here’ 😂🤣😂

I really hope it was this. Mostly cos it’s so delightfully nonsensical and grumpy!

I think ‘backhanders’ may have been used interchangeably with ‘giving with one hand, and taking with another?’ (Not necessarily financially, could also be in effort/time invested etc) - eg derived from the phrase ‘a backhanded compliment’.. so something that’s dressed up as nice, that’s actually not.

e.g in this instance ‘you’ve done that job, but ignored or created another one ?
or, yes you’ve tidied up the poo - but half asses it so you’ve made sure I’ve had to deal with the smell too?

Did you read her original thread?
She asked for help and had some nasty comments made so she retaliated.
Read whole thread back.

No expectation of privacy? WTF

I suppose it’s a little thing called “trust”. Trust that the camera footage will be accessed for its intended usage

@windysea or rather the Op

You joined / name changed a mere five minutes and have only posted twice ever on mumsnet . Both times on this thread and sticking up for the Op.😂

70% of domestic violence reports tech being involved nowadays including ring doorbells etc being used to spy on the victims

So regardless of whether or not you think its okay for someone's partner to listen back to a conversation not meant for them, it's irresponsible to normalise the idea that using tech to watch your partners comings and goings is totally fine and normal to do.

Back handers can also mean slaps in the face?

You have a problem.
Having a go at someone who sticks up for op now.

There is a fairly distinctive posting style going on isn't there

You read the OP

and you come to this conclusion

😐

I am guessing it’s either stony silence or fireworks at the OP’s.

What a dark place some homes must be