Is it actually an Irish man thing or is ex lying?!

[Littlemisslonley]

Hi all
So this is weird. My ex (he's irish) and I broke up 12 weeks ago as he was very innapropriate with a female "friend"...she would send selfies and he would reply that "you look gorgeous darling" and send love heart emojis...we broke up over the fact that she facetimed him at 1am I said he needs to back off abit from her and make firm boundaries...he didn't like that so he literally got up and left....later after we discussed some things and he said complimenting your female friends is an Irish thing we tell women they look gorgeous all the time and send love heart emojis to females it's an Irish thing....now I smell bullshit..... however I wanted to ask your opinions of this?

Also do all Irish men/women drink ALOT? Again I feel I know this answer but want your opinions

BS

When he said it I was like how are you even trying to gaslight me with this bs right now?!

I think there is a big difference between telling someone they look gorgeous to their face and face timing them in the middle of the night.

It's a smarmy man with the gift of the gab thing going on maybe, but not specifically Irish.

100% not an Irish man thing

My ex was Irish. He was a cheating, heavy drinker.

I don't think it was his nationality that caused it, however. 😂

I rather think it was entirely due to him being a twat.

Irish and it’s outrageous bs. Like anywhere else some Irish drink a lot more don’t

The photos thing is not ok.
I can imagine she had too much to drink and face timed him at 1am though.

….it is unbelievable what a man can say to deny cheating…an Irish man thing to receive naked pictures and facetime at 1am….I have to give it to him. Not even an Italian/Greek/French/Spanish man would make up this shit. And they are serial cheaters

Yes all Irish people drink until we start a fight and pass out. It's because we are so stupid and lazy. Is that the kind of replies you are looking for? Xenophobia under the guise of looking for advice?

I had an Irish boyfriend who was absolutely full of it. But then other guys who weren't Irish have also been full of it so 🤷

I call BS too. I'm not aware of a particular culture amongst Irish men of over complimenting their female friends, not to that extent. It sounds like he fancies her tbh. But I could be wrong.

Absolutely not! You’re well rid.

Thats all I knew it was all aload of bullshit but I have been gaslighted so much over the past 15 months in the relationship I was head fucked.
Wish I'd of looked at the red flags and not blurred them out! Lesson learnt.

Absolutely not. I just wanted to see if any part of it was real tbh I have nothing against Ireland or Irish folk

I'm Irish. I don't know all the men but that's bs.

Your not wrong...the way he spoke about her when we first met said it all like she was some sort of godess from what I heard!!

Also some Irish people drink a lot. Others are teetotal. Most I imagine will fall In between. The drunken leprechaun thing is a stereotype.

I thought so.... funny how he tried to get out of his emotional affair by using this 🤣🤣

Maybe not but what you said in your OP about drinking was frankly racist.

I feel he used it as an excuse
"I'm Irish of course I drink alot!" Like stereotyping for sure.... it always icked me out how much he drank couldn't just have 1 bottle of wine shared he would down 2 or 3! On a Wednesday 🤣 no offence to any drinkers but that gives me concerns

Irish husband here and have numerous Irish brother in law's an Irish father in law and many male Irish relatives. Definitely not a thing. My husband does like a few drinks but wouldn't describe him as a heavy drinker and none of his male family are

Of course all Irish people don't drink a lot - it's a pretty tired old stereotype.

Absolute BS about the complimenting friends thing as well - honestly, they are more likely to completely rip the piss out of you.

He is a chancer, and him being Irish is not the cause of that.

How so? Its a common stereotype the Irish like a drink it's common for most people it's not offensive it's more of a jokey stereotype thing as far as I am aware.

I am not being offensive to anyone here and I think your being extremely defensive over nothing? If you've taken my post offensivly then I am sorry that it hurt your heart but it wasn't intended too!

As an Irish woman I'm smelling utter bs here too. I've never met an Irish man who knew how to compliment a woman they are usually woeful at it and need to be taught! In terms of heavy drinking, it's a stereotype, there's a bit of a binge drinking culture but I wouldn't say heavy drinking is normal and expected no.