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Deleted or he hid his last seen?

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delawaregi · 12/10/2023 11:03

If someone deleted my number on WhatsApp, can I see them typing to me?

When I first sent him my Swiss number I couldn't see his last seen as he hadn't added me yet. By evening he opened his last seen for everyone as he still hadn't added me but for some reason decided to open his last seen for everyone including those who are not his contacts. Then he added my British number and closed his last seen for everyone and only kept it open for his contacts. A year later we had a fight and he deleted me but denied deleting me, instead saying he had archived me. In January this year, I saw him texting someone when we were talking together but that person's last seen was not visible on his WhatsApp either so I don't know if he had set his last seen to nobody or if the person he was texting had set his last seen to nobody. For 8 months I couldn't see his last seen. Then I told him about the gossipers and he agreed to meet up and when I sent him a text, a few hours later he replied and I could see his last seen. I don't know if he had kept his last seen to nobody or re-added me.

Then last month I couldn't see his last seen and when I texted asking for help, he replied 2 hours later and I could see him typing and within a few minutes I could see his last seen again. Yesterday I met him and he was literally sitting outside the gates, I called out his name and he saw me looking happy. He was going to meet a friend but he let me accompany him halfway through the route and was talking animatedly and was in a good mood. Then today morning I couldn't see his last seen again. He was online until 21.47 when I last spoke and I could see his last seen that time but today morning his last seen isn't visible. I have a feeling that he's trying to test me because the person I mentioned while asking him for help last month was online on similar days on MS Teams. I feel he's trying to check if I watched his last seen and noticed that he had hidden/or deleted me and that's why he has hidden or deleted me again to see if I message him again trying to see if I'm still in his contacts or if he has deleted me ??

OP posts:
rainbowstardrops · 13/10/2023 16:04

This is batshit. How old are you as you say you're not 50?
This is the sort of thing that a teenager would write.

alpenguin · 13/10/2023 16:07

OP you’re an ego boost. Someone he turns to when there isn’t anyone else around to entertain him. He cuts you off when he has someone more interesting to play with and allows you to see his activity when he’s bored with no one to play with. You’re a toy and he’s enjoying playing with your emotions when it suits him. He likes you chasing him when he has nothing else on.

You need to find someone who values you. Not someone who winks at you once in a while to keep you available

You read far too much into the little Interaction nothings. I get that you are searching for positive signs but in doing so you’re ignoring the glaringly obvious negative ones.

What are you getting out of this quasi-relationship other than some severe self doubt, excessive rumination and the possibility of a criminal record if you keep up with the forensics?

I think you’re posting here out of a desperation for someone to tell you he likes you and wants to be with you despite his avoidant behaviour but without your shroud of infatuation nobody here can see it like that. Only you are over analysing tiny signs because you have hope.

He’s stringing you along as someone he can turn to when there’s no one else. A fuck buddy at best. If you’re happy with that then you need to pull back and stop looking for signs of things that don’t exist and accept your slot in his life. If you’re not happy with that then you need to improve your self esteem and allow yourself to believe you’re worth better than this and block this guy from your life.

He is not the future love of your life, it’s going nowhere and it’s driving you crazy trying to work out his intentions. So let me tell you, he has none for you. He’s playing with you like you’re a toy. You’re not a toy you’re a loving human being who deserves a peaceful non anxiety inducing relationship. He will never provide that. You need to block him and delete him and move on for your own health and mental well-being.

Original poster
delawaregi · 13/10/2023 16:36

alpenguin · 13/10/2023 16:07

OP you’re an ego boost. Someone he turns to when there isn’t anyone else around to entertain him. He cuts you off when he has someone more interesting to play with and allows you to see his activity when he’s bored with no one to play with. You’re a toy and he’s enjoying playing with your emotions when it suits him. He likes you chasing him when he has nothing else on.

You need to find someone who values you. Not someone who winks at you once in a while to keep you available

You read far too much into the little Interaction nothings. I get that you are searching for positive signs but in doing so you’re ignoring the glaringly obvious negative ones.

What are you getting out of this quasi-relationship other than some severe self doubt, excessive rumination and the possibility of a criminal record if you keep up with the forensics?

I think you’re posting here out of a desperation for someone to tell you he likes you and wants to be with you despite his avoidant behaviour but without your shroud of infatuation nobody here can see it like that. Only you are over analysing tiny signs because you have hope.

He’s stringing you along as someone he can turn to when there’s no one else. A fuck buddy at best. If you’re happy with that then you need to pull back and stop looking for signs of things that don’t exist and accept your slot in his life. If you’re not happy with that then you need to improve your self esteem and allow yourself to believe you’re worth better than this and block this guy from your life.

He is not the future love of your life, it’s going nowhere and it’s driving you crazy trying to work out his intentions. So let me tell you, he has none for you. He’s playing with you like you’re a toy. You’re not a toy you’re a loving human being who deserves a peaceful non anxiety inducing relationship. He will never provide that. You need to block him and delete him and move on for your own health and mental well-being.

I never had sex with him

OP posts:
ShellySarah · 13/10/2023 16:36

He doesn't like you enough to want sex with you.

Original poster
delawaregi · 13/10/2023 16:49

ShellySarah · 13/10/2023 16:36

He doesn't like you enough to want sex with you.

he wanted sex but i didnt until he would be exclusive but go on cooking up stories

OP posts:
Scalottia · 13/10/2023 16:57

delawaregi · 13/10/2023 15:31

Sorry but maybe he doesnt follow you because he wants to appear single. Too many married men and men introduce girlfriends and wives to everyone and still cheat. Ever heard of that?

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Why are you so angry OP? Is it jealousy?

He's not interested. Move on.

PierceMorgansChin · 13/10/2023 17:20

LusaBatoosa · 13/10/2023 16:00

This reads like a manic episode.

What are you hoping to achieve from this post? You’re not listening, so it’s serving no purpose. Hide this thread and step away from the he internet for a bit.

Not the manic episode 😂

SanFranBear · 13/10/2023 17:41

This is exhausting!

DatingDinosaur · 13/10/2023 17:45

Oh dear.

OP I think this is a Life Lesson you will have to learn the hard way on your own.

When I replied I gave you the benefit of the doubt because "love" can make a person (you) do some bloody strange things but, nah, you ask a garbled question then bollock everyone who tells you what you don't want to hear.

So yes, learn the lesson the hard way.

I'm out.

Watchkeys · 13/10/2023 19:02

Sorry but maybe he doesnt follow you because he wants to appear single. Too many married men and men introduce girlfriends and wives to everyone and still cheat. Ever heard of that

You live your life via social media, don't you, @delawaregi ? There are people out there who trust each other, regardless of social media status, you know.

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