Deleted or he hid his last seen?

[delawaregi]

If someone deleted my number on WhatsApp, can I see them typing to me?

When I first sent him my Swiss number I couldn't see his last seen as he hadn't added me yet. By evening he opened his last seen for everyone as he still hadn't added me but for some reason decided to open his last seen for everyone including those who are not his contacts. Then he added my British number and closed his last seen for everyone and only kept it open for his contacts. A year later we had a fight and he deleted me but denied deleting me, instead saying he had archived me. In January this year, I saw him texting someone when we were talking together but that person's last seen was not visible on his WhatsApp either so I don't know if he had set his last seen to nobody or if the person he was texting had set his last seen to nobody. For 8 months I couldn't see his last seen. Then I told him about the gossipers and he agreed to meet up and when I sent him a text, a few hours later he replied and I could see his last seen. I don't know if he had kept his last seen to nobody or re-added me.

Then last month I couldn't see his last seen and when I texted asking for help, he replied 2 hours later and I could see him typing and within a few minutes I could see his last seen again. Yesterday I met him and he was literally sitting outside the gates, I called out his name and he saw me looking happy. He was going to meet a friend but he let me accompany him halfway through the route and was talking animatedly and was in a good mood. Then today morning I couldn't see his last seen again. He was online until 21.47 when I last spoke and I could see his last seen that time but today morning his last seen isn't visible. I have a feeling that he's trying to test me because the person I mentioned while asking him for help last month was online on similar days on MS Teams. I feel he's trying to check if I watched his last seen and noticed that he had hidden/or deleted me and that's why he has hidden or deleted me again to see if I message him again trying to see if I'm still in his contacts or if he has deleted me ??

all posts alleging stalking, and crazy, will be reported and I have reported several of you.

Jesus, I must be old. I didn't even understand the op's opening post. Is this how relationships work nowadays, you look at when people are active on social media and draw conclusions of their admiration/affection towards you from that. As you talk in real life, why not bring this up face to face? If it's because he will assume you are batshit crazy, well have a little think about that.

This is getting weird now. If this is true, i fear for the OP's mental health ( and her potential BF). I suspect it's made up though.

Quit with the sassy “lols” please. You’ve posted asking for opinions / advice.

You don’t like the opinions you’ve got so now you’re showing yourself up with sassiness & lols.

TWICE now you’ve “lolled” at posts where I’ve given my first-hand account of being cyber-stalked for 4 years. Not once have you given that thought as to the fact you are mirroring my stalkers “innocent online behaviour”. Your only responses to me have been knee-jerk retorts full of glibness, defensiveness and total lack of self-awareness.

You asked for advice, but I’m off. Had enough hassle with stalkers to last me a lifetime. Good luck to you .

You are stalking though. You're using his last seen to track when he's using the app. That's not what it's for.

Reading that made my brain hurt. That way madness lies. Who is this guy? It doesn't sound as if he is your bf so why the obsession?

No I think he is not interested beyond friends and it's nothing to do with you.

Go on then, report me. Report me for having politely shared my honest first-hand account of being the unwilling recipient of a crime (online stalking & harassment) for a horrible period of the past 4 years….. I shared it In order to help you see the flip-side of your scenario (you requested opinions / advice). To encourage you to reflect from another perspective.

But go ahead and report me 🤣

Silencing victims? Nice one OP. 👏🏻 👏🏻

Happy to have my post reported,so please go ahead.
Your behaviour is very worrying and you don't seem to understand social cues.
He doesn't want to be with you,but is polite enough to you when he accidentally meets you. I can guarantee his heart sank when he bumped into you .
His winking and touching your clothes are probably habits and he behaves that way with everyone he sparks to .
If he has any sense he will avoid places that you might be.

Surely, OP, you must realise that you've become obsessed with his online activity.

You're clearly not in a relationship and it sounds like he's dangling you for occasional hook ups.

I'd move on .

You're not suited, and he's a player. Stop caring about his online activity, move on and it'll improve your mental health

What would you like to hear? What is it you want from the thread? Clearly you don't want advice because you've rejected it. You don't want to leave him behind... Do you want us to tell you that he's secretly planning to propose to you and will love you forever? Because... he is, and he does!

Better now?

My boyfriend doesn't follow me on Facebook or Instagram etc. He's with me every single weekend and twice during the week and has introduced me to his family. All his friends know about his girlfriend. He calls me his girlfriend.

That is what interest looks like and I'm sorry if this guy was interested this is what he'd do for you. You'd be his gf unambiguously.

Sorry but maybe he doesnt follow you because he wants to appear single. Too many married men and men introduce girlfriends and wives to everyone and still cheat. Ever heard of that?

Having your last seen switched off doesn't delete anyone. It just means you can't see when they were last on WhatsApp.

I had a friend like you who is the sole reason I have it off all the time. She'd message me on Whatsapp, then message me via text if I didn't respond within seconds, telling me she knew when I was last online. She then didn't like the answer when she asked why I had it off...

lol so funny how he doesnt talk to anyone or have any friends except a 50 year old woman but hes touching and winking at everyone what a story you made up in your delusional mind.
He is now even following me on pinterest but go on with your deluded stories. makes you look even more insane.

You may need profession help ,that would be very helpful to you .
Good luck.

I'm not going to dignify that with a response.

As you were.

If I had a friend who did that I'd switch it off too. Do you know that there is a setting on WhatsApp that means you can switch it off only for certain people? Switch her off.

To be fair, I'm happy with absolutely no one knowing when I was last on, as that way madness lies for those with an investigative bent...

You're 50?! Ffs I though you were about 15 from you posts 😳

LOL he has a friend who is 50 not me. Didnt read as usual

For goodness sake. Just ask him out a s stop with all this drama. Then you will know.

This reads like a manic episode.

What are you hoping to achieve from this post? You’re not listening, so it’s serving no purpose. Hide this thread and step away from the he internet for a bit.

😆 fair point