Why did he ask this? Is he messing with my head. Advice needed

[dundeecake]

My ex & I split up a couple of months ago, spoke to him last night & he asked if I missed him I said yes of course I do very much (me being honest) I said do you miss me then, replied dont want to talk about it as to deep!!!! (WTF)me eyerolling

I replied "Ok I am not bothered anyway"

He replied " Well then no I dont"

So what was the point in asking as it has stirred up my feelings again just as I was progressing a little.

www.amazon.co.uk/Feeling-Handbook-Plume-David-Burns/dp/0452281326/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=120 4896906&sr=1-1

Get yourself that book for starters and see your doctor too x

and are you still feeling as bad?

new mood therapy

Sorry hun was wrong link it's this book above and it's a CBT book rave reviews.

Yes afraid so, feel like he has just messed my head up.

Feel like a right sado feeling like this. I need to get a life...

got to go for now but will chat later, keep your chin up hun x

you're not a saddo hun you're in pain. Look after yourself talk later x

I am going to have to start living life to the full & stop mooching about as why does he deserve me being unhappy over him he was the one with the insecurities not me & I do deserve better. (Will have to keep telling myself that before I start crying again) I suppose the best revenge is to be as happy as possible.

You are right starlight I will have to step back & revaluate the situation & adjust myself to life with out him. He had just made me doubt myself & who I am as a person.

And reading my messages has cheered me up & made me look at things differently.

you're sounding better already. It is hard but you'd probably be unhappy with him wondering when he was going to up and leave? No one wants to live like that. You've made the first step by changing your thinking...keep it up. And get that book

I know in my heart its for the best as you shouldnt be with some-one that doesnt trust you, its just the ache that is there

Have ordered the book thanks for that Ulysees

Wisty, i would like to add a word to yours, it begins with C!!

You go ahead LEM - yours for the taking

I was posting this morning.....I have now had a ciggie and a beer so it's

Because he's an absolute cunt like LEM says

thinking of you dundee hope the book is as good as the reviews but I think it will be was on TV recently and got raved about there

My book arrived today yipee. Have felt really positive all weekend then come today

I agree LEM he is a C

I cried almost every day for two years when my marriage split up. You should see the new wrinkles I got because of it. not kidding! I hope you are ok dundeecake. Some splits hit us really hard, others barely at all. Keep plodding, you will get there in the end.

You summed that up well littlewoman yes it has hit me really hard where as when my marriage of 10 years ended I was ok. Know what you mean about the wrinkle for me not you.

I will get there its just hard while you are going through it I feel like there is something up with me as never really got a reason why we finished.