I'm assuming porn

[hellthe22]

Hi everyone . So I have been meeting up with a guy I have got on with so well over the last few months . Up until Friday we hadn't even kissed . I needed to take things slow . And I told him this and he was ok with it thankfully .

So last night we went on a date . We went to a beautiful restaurant in London and then when back to his apartment. We had planned to lay in bed watch films and eat loads of crap.

As soon as I got there we had a kiss and cuddle and went to bed . The film was on two minutes before we started kissing and then obviously that led to sex . I don't feel like he forced me at all but I didn't feel 100 percent really but at this point we got carried away and started doing it .

So this is where I'm thinking I don't know what's wrong . We had sex for 6 hours . Could be more and I am dead ! But all this time his Willy was going half soft and he couldn't finish at all !

He was very rough as well . Iv never had relationships where sex has been this way but he was holding me down hard with his hand in my wrists and grabbing my hair really hard.

Now what I have read on here it's got to be death grip maybe and I'm hoping that he's not really that aggressive in bed but he felt like maybe from watching porn 'he had been single for 2 years ' that that's what we want ? .

Apart from the sex he's the most caring and loving person I have met. But this is giving my the ick so bad . He even tried finishing himself off but it just wants happening .

Any advice what could be going on please ? Thankyou

Reading that made me feel sick. Why are you putting your self through this ? Six hours ? Moan on mumsnet about it then back for round two? Bizarre

Women can't always just 'walk away' from men who like rough sex. I know you're a bloke and therefore don't get it at all. But imagine you're having sex with someone 20% bigger than you, much stronger than you, who is rough in bed. Sound fun? Or is it only fun when you're the one with all the control?

I've name changed for this.

During a really difficult period in my life, I started dating somebody who was the "nice guy", lots of friends, his own place, lovely family and a good job etc.

He was a coke user and I had no idea. I guess I'm naive as I've never done it. What you describe the sex to be like was the same. Went on for hours, rough, kept losing erection, couldn't climax and eventually he'd pass out asleep after giving up.

Cracks started to show about 2 months in when he invited friends back after a night out and they were all doing coke off of his kitchen side, offering me some and calling me boring for declining.

I was lonely and ignored the red flags in front of me as he was so nice to me, except when he wasn't, I dismissed him being passive aggressive and controlling as loving me and caring a lot. Then, he beat me up whilst off his face on coke after a night out because I spoke to a man at the bar about the length of the queue. I got in the bath at 3am to wash blood off of my face and out of my hair and stayed in there I heard him snoring. In the morning, he was crying telling me sorry and he loves me and it'll never happen again. He left for work and I packed up my stuff. He was watching me on his ring doorbell loading stuff into my car and ringing me. I never went back and thankfully he left me alone.

Please get out of this situation you're in, nothing good comes from somebody who's using coke and he definitely is.

Dating is for finding out if you're compatible. It doesn't appear you're compatible. I wouldn't waste any more time, and frankly, this whole situation is nasty. Hard pass, if you'll pardon the phrase.

Going to sound really stupid now but what is death grip ?

Exactly. It can be fairly difficult to kick a heavy male off of you and make a run for it.

I have literally made a mental exit plan from a guy's place if things went wrong.

Thankfully, being post menopausal made me asexual and the thought of an xy touching me makes my crawl.

I can't work out if you are finding it funny, Op.

Death grip...when theyre used to pressure of their own hand whilst masturbating therefore get desensitized to sexual intercourse with a woman.

Why on earth did you go back for more sex? I don't understand, you said it was awful, rough, and have you the ick. Then you're back the next night to fuck him again and accept the same thing happening?

One thing that hasn’t been mentioned is anti-depressants. IME they can cause ED both with maintaining an erection or the ability to climax..but actually it’s beside the point. The point is you don’t feel comfortable in bed with him. This isn’t the kind of sex you want. So you either cut your losses or talk to him and see if it improves.

Sounds like a classic cocaine user! I wouldn't have another date if i was you! They can also hide it VERY well!

@Loubelle70 ah right , thank you