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Boyfriends autism/awkwardness is a turn off

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Julie5030 · 30/09/2023 02:28

Now I hope to not offend anyone but I have been dating this lovely man (26) for nearly three months now and although he's tall, very good looking, good career, very kind but he is autistic and very awkward. After one month of seeing each other he asked me for a kiss in which I said "of course" but after that kiss I could just tell that he has never kissed a woman before, he never puts his arm around me or touches me and usually he asks if we want to hold hands. Most weekends he just asks me if I want to go for walks or watch a movie at his house while ordering a takewaway rather than going out to restraunts, he has took me to a restraunt but he says that he has never been into eating out.

He has never had a girlfriend before and he also basically pays for everything, he has also spent thousands on me and I just think its a bit too much. In terms of where he gets this money he's an electrical engineer and he has also talked about really wanting kids someday, I think he is a lovely man but he is just too "awkward" and his lack of experience is a massive turn off

OP posts:
Albioncreed · 30/09/2023 13:28

End the relationship and let him find someone who loves him for who he is.

I’ve been with DH 20 years and strongly suspect he is autistic (a family member of his who diagnoses autism for a living has suggested this to him, he has no interest in a diagnosis)

I love DH with all my heart and don’t get irritated by his quirks very often. We accept each other as we are.

he’s not the man for you

Ofcourseshecan · 30/09/2023 22:04

Hibiscrubbed · 30/09/2023 09:53

Fuck, this post makes me uncomfortable. It’s like the poster has fetishised autism.

‘These people’? Gross.

A bit unfair. She just loves her husband and son, so she sees the good side of other people who are similar.

Millybob · 30/09/2023 22:31

You don't fancy him - but you can tolerate him while he's spending thousands on you after knowing you for just a few weeks?
If he's a lovely man, he deserves more than a gold-digger like you.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 30/09/2023 22:48

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 30/09/2023 02:31

End the relationship and let him spend his time and money on someone that actually likes him

I agree

Sandrine1982 · 30/09/2023 22:58

I would find this very sexy. You should let go of him...

PikachuChickenRice · 30/09/2023 22:59

Millybob · 30/09/2023 22:31

You don't fancy him - but you can tolerate him while he's spending thousands on you after knowing you for just a few weeks?
If he's a lovely man, he deserves more than a gold-digger like you.

This OP. Do him a favour and dump him so he can find a woman who actually likes him.

Btw my husband is like you describe he's autistic too but the best part is he actually listens to me in bed so we both have a great time.

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