Would you buy a property with a spouse if they refuse to show you a bank statement when you ask?

[Martacus]

Would you buy a property with a spouse if they refuse to show you a bank statement when you ask them (to see exact savings and salary)?

If they refuse, would you just take their word for it and trust them?

Or would you demand to see evidence?

And what would you do if they still refuse?

No absolutely not. No way would I tie myself financially to someone who refuses to have financial honesty with me.

Definitely not
Run for the hills

Of course not.

No.

No.

Absolutely not

You should not be in a serious relationship with someone you don't know the financial position of.

If you are serious enough to be buying a home you are serious enough to be honest about finances.

Otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail.

Not a good sign, is it? Have you heard the phrase, "sunk cost"?

No way.

I would not marry anyone who refused to do that.

Nope! Gut feeling is they earn considerably more than they say or have got secret savings

No.

Do they realise they’ll have to show them to the bank anyway?

what reason do they give?

Nope.

What reason is good enough to hide your finances from someone you're entering into a huge financial contract with?

No. I'd walk away from the sale.

I wouldn’t buy a house with anyone who refused to fully share their financial information with me. No I wouldn’t take their word for it on such a huge commitment. I would want to feel secure that they could meet their obligations as far as the mortgage was concerned, and not hiding any debt (or anything else) that could impact on their ability to do so.

No.

I wouldn't marry someone who wouldn't share finances with me (and I say that as the higher earner in our relationship).

No.

I wouldn't stay married to them, either. I wouldn't be married to them in the first place.

No I would not. I expect to be treated as an equal and with respect!

Nope

For me this would affect the whole marriage let alone the sale.

I would suspect debts or a higher salary - I'd suspect dodgy spending. Eg on another woman or some unsavoury thing.

Spouse = married = joint banking in my house.

They have to supply copies to Mortgage Broker anyways so why should the Broker see and not me?

Nope, it's a marriage, a partnership, all finances should be transparent from the start.
I'd be very worried about him keeping something as huge as this from you, and I wouldn't enter into a huge financial bind without knowing exactly what is going on.

No, and I’d also assume they were pretty dim if they didn’t think all of that information needed to be shared with the bank anyway, of course you’ve got to be honest financially to take out a joint mortgage with someone.