I’m wondering if I’m going to be able to find my adult respect for him again. My husband and I have had our rocky patches, but I think with therapy we have been muddling our way through.
he’s due to join some old friends for a weekend in New York in a couple of weeks. People I know, whose wives I know well. I asked about the itinerary and he talked through the games they were going to watch, the golf and then said. And I know the guys will want to end up in some seedy bars.
I expressed explicitly that I am not ok with strip clubs. This isn’t news to him. I’ve been explicitly not ok with them in the past when they’ve been discussed re: stag dos etc
he then got really angry - said that when I agreed to him going for the weekend I had tacitly agreed to it. That I am being wilfully naive + that I have put HIM in an impossible situation. That that just what guys do.
This isn’t a stag do. It’s a bunch of 40yr old men. If I wasn’t furious with him I’d be embarrassed for them. Urgh.
and doubly urgh that he’s flipped this on me.
I know it’s not ok. I’ve got the most awful ick about how transparent and pathetic the redirected rage was. I haven’t decided what I’m going to do about it all - I just need to vent.