@karlaka, after 9 months of your Partner’s lies, infidelity, and transmission of genital warts, I wouldn’t be championing his finally coming clean.
This guy is the prince of hidden agendas. It suited him to lead a double life, fooling his two unsuspecting girlfriends for almost a year. When you were diagnosed with the STI in November of 22, he lied that he was diagnosed almost a year previously, but you later discovered it was actually in May 22, a few months before you started dating in July.
When you two put a joint profile on a swinging platform, he suggested a certain guy there whom he knew to be a former FWB of his Ex. You nixed that pronto, so were surprised to later discover that he was still talking to the guy and had suggested moving their chat to Telegram. Most posters were appalled that he was pushing your boundaries, and some wondered if he hoped word would get back to the Ex. A few mentioned a possible cuckold fantasy.
You were recently concerned about his taking his former intern, who will soon be returning full-time, to his work’s summer event. He’d told you that he didn’t want to take you, as only colleagues would be there. It turned out that hardly any colleagues were there, but many external individuals were. You were worried that his intent was to be alone with the intern.
@karlaka, this self-serving, massively entitled guy has proven multiple times that he is capable of so much deception. He’s very conniving. He has cheated, robbed your agency and consent, given you an STI, and callously disregarded your boundaries. You write threads of concern, but then have an answer to everything to justify and rationalize his behavior.
Proceed with him at your own peril.