Caught Husband watching other women on Tik Tok

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i caught my Husband watching other women on Tik Tok , the sexy dancing all that vibe, I found this out by joining Tik Tok and noticed he followed a bunch of random women on there all ones that did these stupid videos.

We have happily married for 8 years with two kids.

A few months back I found a sexy picture on a WhatsApp group of a random girl with her b**bs out on a group with his mates. Which he had left his IPad out and it had shown up on the notifications. Luckily the kids didn’t see! We had a discussion then about how it made me feel. Now this Tik Tok this has just thrown me right off. Starting to feel really insecure in myself.

I don’t check his phone ever , I don’t even know his password. I’m not one to ask about who he’s messaging or anything. Tbh I’m a super chill wife but this has just really loose trust.

Any help or advice would be appreciated
And I don’t believe in men are ‘visual’ creatures rubbish , I don’t feel the need to watch half naked men online so I’m not sure why men get the free pass on that.

Well I've had to deal with this porn thing for a while and I just lose my cool. It's degrading and disrespectful towards the other partner. I can't tolerate TicToc either. The girls may as well be naked and masterbate... Seriously, it's just as bad. My partner has literally tossed his phone out the wiblndow of the truck to hide what he had been watching. And when I get a gut feeling and my intuition keeps telling me, Pssst! Go look on his phone... I will take his phone and I will sit there for an hour if I need to so I know what's up... We are at the beginning of tge end. And it's sad. He'd rather watch someone else fu have sex than to actually have sex .... I guess he pull on his thing more than I want to right now. Also there are porn sites that show women in your neighborhood that are advertising themself for pleasure.. I have seen it and it's real. So that comment could be false... Yes, they could very well meet a girl on that porn site. There may be one tight next door to you.

I agree with that.

I've also snuck a peek at some hot men on Tiktok (there are a fair few!), I wouldn't expect my husband to get the hump over it. It's natural curiosity to look at others as long as there is no messaging etc that goes along with it.

It's always young slim women isn't it?
It's gross and I don't accept it, seeing the comments on these videos are all sad old men. It completely changes a man in my eyes. I could be besotted and it would give me the dreaded ick.

Go on then? Are you referring to affairs and prostitutes?
And don't speak for all men. The sleazy ones always make out you're all like that

Why are women constantly groomed to just accept behavior that make us uncomfortable? You do not have low confidence for wanting your partner to stop lusting over women online. You have values, morales, respect, and you are strong. I’m sure this is not the first time you have been disappointed by them. I would suggest saying something. Be calm and just let them know how you feel. Tell them to please stop doing it. Hopefully they are polite about it and agree. If not maybe think about finding a different partner. I find small things like this can lead to bigger things down the road.

Hi girls I've been married 4 years and bin with my husband for 25 years we have 3 kids that are all grown up I met him when I was 14 and have been with him since . I just found a load of video of half naked girls on his watched video on tic tok I never thought he would be like this .I have a very high sex drive and he doesn't dose anyone know what this means
please help me thanks 🙏

Start a new thread? This is somebody else’s and from a long time ago.

Most advice you’ll get will be along the lines - read him the riot act. Leave.
Alternatively - you can also realise that tik tok is not porn and there it’s not something you need to obsess about.
People look at attractive people. Its healthy and is not cheating.

Girls?

Ignore @MMmomDD. It's grim and disrespectful.

Read the cool girl monologue from gone girl. Right up your street.

Some of the women on this thread have serious self esteem and boundary issues, yourself included

@strawberrysea Well said.

Not sure what is grim or disrespectful in saying that people are sexual creatures and we all like to look at attractive people. Movie stars, models, TV presenters - are all mostly attractive - and we like watching them.

Tik tok is not porn, so making a huge deal over it - or suggesting one should divorce over it - is ridiculous.
I don't know anyone who's had just one sexual partner from 14yo for a quarter of a century - who has not looked at other people and not wondered what sex is like with others. Humans are not swans - and most won't be able to go through life with just one partner.

@Jlo1986 's H has not cheated. All he did is looked at short videos on tik tok. In the grand scheme of things - this is a non-event.

Stay strong OP and keep your standards.

If only 'they' knew? I assume you are speaking of the women who post on Mumsnet?

And unfortunately, we know or at least most of us know. I do hope you're not as bad as the rape chat group on telegram in your mens WhatsApp groups.

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