My dad visited me, dh and our son a few times during our sons first year. Him and his wife also came to his 1st birthday party.
But the last time he visited, when my son was 13 months old, he shouted at us all. He said he didn't enjoy coming to visit as it was a long day for him (8 hours total train journey), and that my son wasn't interacing with him enough. He also didn't enjoy the activities we did when he came to visit (usually softplay, the park, a meal, or our house, but never a pub which I think he'd prefer, but I just didn't think it was ideal for a baby). This blindsided us a bit though, because I'd spoken to him and his wife in the mo ths before and they'd both said that he enjoyed coming and looked forward to it, so I'm not sure why he suddenly decided he didn't.
Just before he went on a rant to us, which really made me upset, we'd been chatting away normally and I thought we'd been having a nice time.
He didn't get in touch afterwards, he stormed out of the restaurant we were in while I'd gone to bathroom for a big cry. But he sent a birthday message to me and was acting normal so I was sort of expecting him to apologise. Then his wife messaged me and said they were thinking of visiting in a few months time, no mention of what happened last time, so I brought it up and said I didn't want it happening again. She replied, angrily, and said I've made my dad sick saying what I said, but all I did was repeat what he said to us and how it made us all feel.
Now I don't know what to do, I want to see my dad again, but I don't know why he's being so horrible to me or what I've done wrong. None of it makes sense.