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Going out on your own when you have no one to go with

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PenelopeUlysses · 05/09/2023 21:28

Anyone done who's single this? There's a gig this weekend, going to ask a few mates if they want to go but doubt they will.

Everyone I know is attached, skint, uninterested, coupled, etc

OLD is not my thing. They're no in person classes or hobbies nearby.

If you don't advise this, what can you offer as the alternative?

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HopeFloatsAbove · 05/09/2023 21:31

It narrows down your choices for sure.

Meetup has groups that may interest you? They have all sort of things to do, plus is you can make your own group to do stuff with other soloists and its fab.

Yettisrus29 · 05/09/2023 21:34

Just go to the gig, just be aware of your surroundings and enjoy! You never know you might meet new friends.

Other than that, gym classes, sports matches, running clubs, cycling clubs.

HawdMeBack · 05/09/2023 21:35

When I was single I holidayed alone a few times. I also used to go to the cinema on my own fairly regularly. Don't let the lack of company hold you back from doing the things you want to do.

Bananasplitlady · 05/09/2023 21:35

I often go to gigs alone, I don't find it weird or lonely at all, I'm going to listen to music, not have a conversation.

Doggymummar · 05/09/2023 21:37

I've done it before, even if you go with friends you tend to lose them when someone goes to the loo or bar.

MegBusset · 05/09/2023 21:37

I am married but go to gigs by myself all the while, also cinema, galleries/ museums, city breaks… I enjoy not having to factor in anyone else’s needs and being able to leave when I’ve had enough! Go along and have fun :)

FrozenGhost · 05/09/2023 21:39

I am married but I like going to gigs myself. It's not like you are chatting during the gig anyway.

Loubelle70 · 05/09/2023 21:39

I go to the cinema every week on my own..i love it. I go to gigs on my own. I go to the pub alone (i talk to anyone anyway lol)..i have trips alone. Ive no one to go with. Im member of many meetup groups...id recommend that x

TheGirlFromTomorrow · 05/09/2023 21:42

I've been to dozens of gigs by myself. In my experience, no one even notices you are by yourself. Plus you can stand right at the front and not have to worry about standing way back next to the tall man you came with where you can't see a flipping thing!

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PenelopeUlysses · 05/09/2023 21:42

Thanks everyone! Responses sound overall positive and already lean towards that.

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RaisedByHedgehogs · 05/09/2023 21:45

I do this a lot! I really enjoy a gig by myself & now I never miss out on anything I fancy.

Danikm151 · 05/09/2023 21:48

I went to a gig on my own in Feb( it was rescheduled four times and my friend could no longer make it) felt awkward at first but enjoyed it and when it ended got to leave straight away- no waiting for others in the loo/at the bar etc I got to sit where I wanted. - nobody minds one person squeezing in 🙂

OhYeahyeahyeah · 05/09/2023 23:18

I went to the Theatre alone a few weeks back, our Babysitter cancelled very last minute, I didn't want to miss it as it was a Birthday gift.
I took myself out for dinner first then onto the show. I loved that evening - it was a little daunting initially but quite liberating too. Go to the Gig and enjoy!

Opentooffers · 05/09/2023 23:23

I got a gig ticket months ago by an artist I love, have asked around, no joy yet, however, looked on my local meetup (gig one) and someone has put the same gig up as a meetup, so just joining that ( unless someone comes through meantime). Always an option, done a few meetup gigs in the past.

scoobydoo1971 · 05/09/2023 23:42

My daughter does art workshops in another city. It means I have to wait around for hours on my own. I am not doing that on a park bench. I go to nice cafes, nice museums, pubs, the cinema and just do some work, or chill out. I don't care if people judge me for being sat alone, as this is my time and it is precious and glorious.

SperaT · 05/09/2023 23:43

I often go to the theatre alone if I get a good last minute deal. Much easier to get a deal!

Lots of people go to gigs on their own. Go and enjoy it!

GeorgeBeckett · 05/09/2023 23:49

I love going out on my own. Especially dinner with a book! Also love the theatre or cinema.
Am married, childcare is complex, sometimes travel with work.
I bought DH a night in a spa hotel once as a present - thought he'd like the sleep and no toddler. He did!

CapEBarra · 06/09/2023 05:18

I’d absolutely go to a gig by myself. Loads of people do this and some people prefer it. I also happily will have coffee, lunch or dinner alone, or go to the theatre or cinema. I don’t think anything of it.

WTF475878237NC · 06/09/2023 05:21

My husband rarely wants to do anything I like with me so I often do these things alone. I'd rather that than miss out.

GreyCarpet · 06/09/2023 06:49

Yep, another go on your own.

I asked a similar question on many years ago, was told to go on my own, had a great time amd I've been doing it ever since! Whilst you don't go for conversation, you generally do getting talking to people and no one has ever thought it was weird.

Since then, I've gone away for weekends alone, camping, festivals, the pub, out for dinner...

I love going out on my own.

GreyCarpet · 06/09/2023 06:50

WTF475878237NC · 06/09/2023 05:21

My husband rarely wants to do anything I like with me so I often do these things alone. I'd rather that than miss out.

That's really good. I always feel a bit sad for women who post on here because their husband's don't want to go out so they never do anything.

HelterSkelter224 · 06/09/2023 06:55

I've found myself doing loads of stuff solo recently, especially where tickets / firm plans are involved as I just can't be bothered trying to organise people. I catch up with people socially for coffees / dinners etc. where things can be more flexible but actually really enjoy doing stuff on my own. If there's a gig you fancy this weekend, just go along! You'll have a great time 😊

There's actually a group called solo armada who are solo gig goers you can get a badge to identify other solo gig goers when you're out.

Have fun! X

Anewnamea · 06/09/2023 06:55

Definitely go to the gig or anything else you want to do alone!

I’ve travelled solo, been to the theatre alone, regularly visit museums and coffee shops alone. And if I’m on a solo holiday of course I eat out and go to all tourist attractions alone.

You might even make a friend for the night at the gig! I had a friend who went to see Hamilton by herself recently and she got talking to a woman who was there by herself.

OldTinHat · 06/09/2023 07:07

I always go to events on my own. I'll put a shout out on a social group chat I'm a member of in case anyone wants to join me, but the majority of the time I go solo. I actually prefer it now!

BitOutOfPractice · 06/09/2023 07:12

Yep, I’ve been to gigs, cinema, holidays, dinner, lots of places alone. Whether single or not. Love it!

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