I am completely at a loss here and don’t know what to do anymore. These were my husband’s words to me this morning in bed. Needless to say I got up without a word and left our room. We are married now 3 and a half years with a 3 month old baby. His behavior has totally changed since the birth and I really don’t know what to do anymore. Little bit of background about us: baby was 100% planned, as we are 42 and 46 years old and when I was 39 we started IVF which was grueling,, we had 5 viable embryos, 3 didn’t catch, baby is number 4, so we still have one embryo frozen. Husband was very very supportive throughout the entire process, actually I was about to sort of give up and was saying to him that I can be happy by just being the two of us but actually I had the feeling that he desired the baby more then i did. When I got pregnant he was entirely supportive the whole time, actually from this point I miss being pregnant because since the birth of the baby everything turned upside down. It’s like he is missing our old life but doesn’t really say so just acts so childish and spoiled. Obviously I don’t have time to cook gourmet meals anymore ( I love cooking) and the house is also a mess sometimes… I am currently staying at home with the baby, he is working 4 times a week ( we are very comfortably off), he doesn’t have pressure from work point of view. Baby is super amazing and now he started to even sleep through the night already which makes things much easier. Still my husband seems so unhappy and has been behaving so unreasonably. In the first two months of baby’s life two times he called me ‘stupid woman’ when we had an argument, which hurt like hell but I attributed it to tiredness. I admit the first two months were difficult, but since then things have improved and we are sleeping so much better. So I don’t understand today’s hurtful frase. Our sex life has been good so far, and since the birth of the baby ( c-section ) we had sex already two times.
I really don’t know what to do here anymore, I just feel that his words/ behavior is killing the love that I have for him. What shall I do? If I wouldn’t have the baby at this point I would start searching for a divorce lawyer…. Am I exaggerating? Did any of you have similar experience? Is he going through some kind of depression? What shall I do?