I posted a thread a few weeks ago about finding DH searching for things such as 'local shags' and 'flirtme' online. I only saw this as my 11 yo son's tablet is linked to DH's phone and I can see the search history, which I have managed to keep hidden from my son - it doesn't show up on the google search bar, only by delving into the history. Anyway, I've been trying to find a way and a time to confront him, but hadn't done so until this morning. I bought my son a new phone this week, and he's been transferring across everything from his tablet, so I thought I better check it to make sure the google bar is the same. It turns out it isn't the same - on clicking the google bar, all of the recent searches are immediately shown, including 'local shags'. I took it straight downstairs to show DH, and to tell him he has to make sure he deletes his search history so that our son doesn't see things like this. I hate confrontation so went back upstairs to unsync the accounts and leave it at that. He followed me up and told me this is all my fault, what do I expect after 12 years of no sex, I've created the atmosphere in the house, everyone is unhappy because of me etc etc. I was half expecting this response as he always looks to blame others for everything. But I didn't expect to feel as if maybe he's right and I've driven him to it. Yes, I do act cold towards him, but only because I plain don't like him or the way he's made me feel like a single mother for years, doing whatever he wants, going to gigs all the time, but he now says he does this as I make him feel unwanted. He says there's no way he's leaving the house or the kids, which is ultimately what I want him to do, and now I feel like I've thrown a grenade into the house and it's all going to be worse than it already was. He's wfh, the kids are in the house, and I have to go back there when I finish work. I am dreading it. I've been waiting years for something big to allow me to say "I'm done" and I thought this was it. I feel as if I'm back to square one. Have I driven him to it? I feel exhausted today.