Would you believe him?

[Sunnyday1203]

I have just found out that my partner invited woman to his hotel room after heavy drinking at family event that I was not at. This was end of last year. I found this out as I just sensed something was not right so decided to look at his phone and found he was texting her this month. exchanging flirty messages and intimate photos. It made me feel sick.
I confronted him and he said he did not do anything and she was in his room for only 15 mins and threw up and was picked up by a friend. My point is the intention was there though.
We have been having some issues recently and he claimed he felt neglected and again was drunk. Clearly this boosted his ego.
I just don't know what to believe, reading the messages certainly does not indicate they had sex but it gives me the ick.

No I would not. Sorry you are going through this

No I wouldn’t
but it’s irrelevant because inviting a woman to his room and sexting her would be enough anyway for me
Clearly he wasn’t very remorseful was he

I don’t think it makes any difference if they had sex or not. You still have an issue.

I would just dump him for flirty texts and inviting her back.

And I’m also sorry this is happening to you. I have had similar, it’s a betrayal whatever.

Get rid x

No, I wouldn’t believe him.

He's minimising.

He may not have done it this time (he did) but he will next time. Once they start this behaviour and you let it go, they’ll do it again because subconsciously they know they can get away with it. Your relationship as you knew it is over. Up to you how long to carry on trying to breathe life into it.

@Sunnyday1203 even if it was true, he fully intended on sticking his knob in another woman!

He is a liar and a cheat and he won't suddenly change. Get rid of him and find yourself a person who you can trust and will make you feel truly loved.

Well he sounds like an absolute prince. No I wouldn't believe him. I'd be ending the relationship based on him treating me with such disrespect then trying to justify it. He's a lying cunt and you can do better OP.

No he is a rubbish liar and an even worse partner. Bin him now.

He's willing to cheat at some point (if he hasn't done so already). He's justifying it by saying he felt neglected. So when he does cheat and you find out, it will be all your fault, you drove him to it by your neglect.

Does it matter if they had sex that night or not? The intent was an obviously there, and he's continued with sexting and photos.

He's a cheat. I'm sorry.

Being drunk is no excuse. Feeling neglected is no excuse.

Yep, all of this.

If he invited a woman back to his hotel room, thats enough to get rid of him.
Makes no difference at all what they did there.

And he is now texting and exchanging intimate photos with her.

Just get rid of him. He is a liar, a cheat, has no morals and zero respect for you. Whats the point of him?

He's lying. And as PP said, even if she did throw up that is all that stopped them from having sex. He wanted to have sex with her. And almost certainly did.

I wouldn’t but it doesn’t matter, the messaging alone would be enough for me to consider him a lying cheating bastard and to leave him.

It could be that nothing happened but the recent pictures clearly show he's thinking about it. I wouldn't necessarily get rid of him right away but I would at the very least suggest couples counselling.

It would be a no from me

I think it's a worry that you're having to post here.

You doubt that you can trust him... Game over.

It shouldn't matter what we say.

He's a liar and a cheat. He will never tell you the truth about what really happened, but you're not stupid. He invited another woman back to his hotel room to have sex with her. That's all you need to know.

Even if I believed his version of events I'd get rid. Because in his version of events, he invited a women to his hotel room (what for? preumably one reason), couldn't have sex because she was sick (this also makes me worry about his approach to consent) and is now sexting / flirting with the same woman months later.

Turn it around on him and see what his answer is, and no I would be packing his things and buy buy Mr

Sorry you’re going through this. Sorry but I wouldn’t trust him, he invited another woman back with the intention of something more happening. He’s clearly had no regret over it if they are still messaging, being flirty and totally inappropriate since he’s in a relationship.

Some people might not see it as cheating but I kinda do as it doesn’t matter if he’s drunk or not, he’s setting someone else. It also feels like he’s trying to blame you and make you feel guilty as he’s claiming he’s neglected.

No.