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Boyfriend acts like he’s YouTube-famous

136 replies

Icycloud · 18/08/2023 07:59

And not as a joke. He has had A YouTube channel for a couple of years and it has a few hundred subscribers. I’m supportive of him and wouldn’t tell him but he’s not actually that good at it. Hardly anyone watches his videos. There’s nothing particularly distinctive about his videos to draw an audience. He is just a random man talking about things he isn’t really qualified to talk about, and why would someone listen to his opinion? I don’t think he has really gone and done much research, and I can’t see why anyone would actually be interested in the videos. He acts like he’s famous, many people have made fun of him. it’s embarrassing. I feel like he’s too old to be acting like this.

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Trevorton · 18/08/2023 10:35

Icycloud · 18/08/2023 09:34

He’s in his 30’s

Sounds like Walter Mitty

PinkCherryBlossoms · 18/08/2023 10:38

Icycloud · 18/08/2023 09:34

He’s in his 30’s

Fucking hell!

golddustwomen · 18/08/2023 10:39

Oh fucking hell I'd ltb over this.

Fraaahnces · 18/08/2023 10:40

My DB is in his late 40’s, morbidly obese and still thinks he’s going to be a famous drummer or skateboarder. He wears self-branded clothing too. He also spends a lot of time chain-smoking and going in and out of mental hospitals. He’s never had a job.

Rotterdam · 18/08/2023 10:41

What are you getting out of this relationship? He sounds like a deluded narcissist.

BTW DD’s ex was a YouTuber with 200k followers, lived in a fantasy world and just listened to his ‘fans’ telling him how great he was. He was an arse as is your boyfriend.

Don’t date a YouTuber or wannabe!

Hellofromtheotherslide · 18/08/2023 10:42

I went on a few dates with a guy like this. I had to stop as the self-centered-ness was bizarre and excruciatingly cringe, especially when he did random showey shit in public. As an introvert, I couldn't fucking cope 🤣

Mirabai · 18/08/2023 10:43

When is he going to be a mechanic if he’s in his 30s? Surely he should be one by now.

JauntyJinty · 18/08/2023 10:59

Icycloud · 18/08/2023 09:34

He’s in his 30’s

I just heard on the radio a footballer has retied at the age of 34, so I think he may have missed the boat on that one!

SlightlyJaded · 18/08/2023 11:00

I don't think you can stay with him as you don't respect him (and rightly so!) and if he is making you cringe now, then I think you know you can't make it work

I think one day you will look back and remember that time you went out with someone who put 'Official' in their YouTube name/Instagram page and cry with laughter at what a twat he was.

SlightlyJaded · 18/08/2023 11:01

@JauntyJinty And that's quite old. Many retire before that.

Shahira78 · 18/08/2023 11:04

Please list his positives

JumpingQueen · 18/08/2023 11:05

My Dh does a bit of YouTube, not sure how many followers as I really don’t give a shit

However there is a lot of people out there who do similar things - they review products and give honest opinions etc it all started when a company asked him to review their products and create a short video and steadily grown (again I couldn’t tell you how much)

However does not act how your partner acts and he’s not a dick about it all. Just part of his hobby 🤷‍♀️ and he has a day job and acts like a normal human being

Itsnotrightbutitsok · 18/08/2023 11:05

I was dating an influencer.
He made good money from it but the ‘fame’ went to his head and I literally couldn’t stick it so I had to end the relationship.

I then started dating a lovely man who was so kind and funny.
But I couldn’t cope with his social media presence.
Every moment was an insta photo opportunity and he’d pose constantly.
Everytime we went out to eat he’d have to post a photo, every time he received a package or got a present it was videod, we couldn’t even have a glass of wine and watch a movie without him taking photos/videos and putting it on insta.

I snapped once and was like why do you have to be everything on Instagram!!! And he said because his followers like to see it - like they wait for him to post!
It gave me the ick.

FrogTaped · 18/08/2023 11:08

Icycloud · 18/08/2023 09:34

He’s in his 30’s

Oh jeeze. Bless.

Gnomegnomegnome · 18/08/2023 11:12

Is it acceptable that posters are asking if he has ‘special needs’ purely because he is an idiot? I don’t think so but a few have done so maybe I’m being sensitive?

@Icycloud what is his actual job right now? Does he work?

BitOutOfPractice · 18/08/2023 11:12

Icycloud · 18/08/2023 08:35

He has branding and everything. Uses “official” in his online usernames.

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That has made my fanjo slam shut.

AlwaysJumping · 18/08/2023 11:13

Middle Aged men doing YouTube channels on their one type of caravan or motorhome thinking they will get hugely famous are bizarre. They also have logos and everything

Aworldofwonder · 18/08/2023 11:13

How long have you been with him?

Honestly I wouldn't find him attractive; wanting to be a famous footballer is a bit pathetic if you're not en route from a young age and men talking crap about stuff they know nothing about is a turnoff for me.

Different strokes for different folks though, many people have questioned my choices over the years.

I don't understand why you're going out with him though as you clearly don't admire him. He might be cringey but I find your sneering really unpleasant.

Eddielizzard · 18/08/2023 11:14

This relationship is doomed

adriftabroad · 18/08/2023 11:18

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Too funny 😂

JFDIYOLO · 18/08/2023 11:18

Everyone who ever built a business, created a brand, grew a YouTube channel began with tiny stumbling often rubbish attempts and kept on going and learning in the face of negativity and scorn. If you have ambition you have to keep it alive even if those closest to you dismiss it.

Firefighter22 · 18/08/2023 11:19

I’ve met a few people who have never grown out of this sort of delusion and it just gets more and more tragic as the years go by. The man in his 50s who is always on the cusp of being the next Damian Hurst or great Australian writer, despite minimal talent in art and writing. No contacts, a few small, unsuccessful local exhibitions etc, but his website is self aggrandising and embarrassing. The man, also in his 50s who is going to be the Dyson of business apps. He has an app and a product that are crap and have had very minor success and sales over a 30 year period. Also embarrassing. He is also full of his own success and importance.

People with these characters traits (over estimating their abilities, fame obsessed, prone to fantasy etc) often just become older versions of the same annoying, embarrassing person. Your partner is particularly deluded if he’s going to be a famous footballer at an age when most famous footballers are planning for retirement from the game. You need to consider leaving and finding a real grown up.

adriftabroad · 18/08/2023 11:22

He has some sort of personality disorder.
Sad and I have sympathy, but you must find a normal man to have a relationship with (if you want a relationship)

porridgeisbae · 18/08/2023 11:31

Is he even working now @Icycloud ?

You know what you have to do with this narcissistic fantasist.

zingally · 18/08/2023 11:33

He's in his 30s?! What's he been doing the past 15+ years?!

If he's "going to be a mechanic", what's he been doing leading up to this? And sorry, but his pro footballer days are long since over!

Fair enough him having a YouTube as a bit of a hobby/side-line. But if that's his entire personality... Yuck.