Dog & DP issue

[TomAllenWife]

DP has had a massive rant over my dog this weekend!

I get that she is a total princess, she sleeps in the beds, cries if she has to sleep downstairs and I let her eat leftovers off my plate 🤦🏼‍♀️
She's DDs dog but she moved away and left her with me.

DP says he doesn't want her living with us when we move

Is he justified in this? Not feeling great at the moment (anxiety & stress) so my perception of stuff is way off

So where would she go?

Train the dog.

Don't give her away.

She would have to go back to dd now she's settled but I love her to bits

No dog is a princess unless the owner makes them that way. Get her properly trained. She’ll be much happier and so will the humans.

Fine.

So, you need to train the dog.

Any other issues? Separation anxiety from what you describe about sleeping separately. Can she be left alone for a few hours? Walk well on a lead? Is she toileting appropriately? Eating a normal healthy diet suitable for dogs? Walked appropriately?

Yes she's great on walks both on and off the lead.
Has always been left in the days from a pup but gets walked as soon as I'm home.
Is house trained

What about this man. Is he house trained, good with people etc?

So is it just the sleeping in the bedroom issue? Anything else?

Stop feeding her from your plate if its causing issues.

See if hubby will compromise.
If shee keeps out of the bed & she stops eating food off your plate would hubby be happier.

I would not let a dog sleep in my bed or let it eat from my plate. I can understand why your husband is not happy about it.

Keep dog

Get rid of man

Easy

So what is his problem with the dog?

Doesn't like her eating off your plate? I agree with him.
Sleeping on your bed? I agree with him.
Growls at him when he tries to get intimate with you? I agree with him.
Destroys his clothing? I agree with him.
Smells? Then bathe her, I agree with him.
Constant barking? I agree with him.

Just breathing in your house? I do not agree with him.

People saying "train the dog" - train her to do what exactly? Stop being a pack animal who wants to sleep with other members of the pack? Stop eating food she's offered?!

You really aren't being a good ddog owner.. My ds had a ddog. He had it trained. Dil let it on the sofa and eat at the table etc. They split up. Ddog was an actual ddog with ds. He had it rehomed. It bit a dc. Was pts. Emotional breakdown the rescue said. Poor thing didn't know whether it was coming or going. Yabu to expect anyone to live with that... What happens to ddog when you have sex?

Are you serious? Do you believe dogs have to sleep with their owners?

Of course you can’t train dogs to not eat food they are offered.

But op can stop letting the dog eat from her plate and stop allowing her to sleep on the bed.

I have 2 dogs. Not a chance would love with someone who lets the dogs upstairs, sleep on the bed or let’s them eat off the plates.

Dogs don’t need to sleep in human beds 🙄

She used to sleep in her bed in the kitchen but started scratching the door for hours so I let her sleep in the living room.
Then she started scratching the bottom of the stairs so she ended up in with ds2

How do I get her back downstairs? I can't cope with hours of door banging

DP would be happy if she slept in her own bed and ate dog food

You need to train her properly and set decent boundaries but I also don't like the sound of your partner.
How long have you been with him and what is his actual issue with the dog? Just the sleeping or does he just not like her?

He doesn't like her disturbing his sleep .

I get it, if I don't get enough sleep I'd be fuming!!!

We've been together for just over 5 years so I'm not likely to end my relationship over my diva dog

Get a dog/baby gate for one room, preferably a safe kitchen or utility and set up her bedding somewhere in there permanently.
Stop giving her your plate.

I'd keep the dog in preference to the man!

No, just exercise some self restraint and keep the dog eating dog food rather than getting away with eating off plates.

She's your dog now so you can do whatever in your own home. I'm not sure I would be with a person who doesn't like animals though.

Why do you have to get rid of her. What's next on his list?

He's not a keeper.

Feeding dogs off plates is gross I don't blame him does your dd want her dog back ? I'd get a baby gate and let dog roam In an area and no shutting of doors she might settle. You don't seem to agree with you partner what are you going to do?

Eating off plate is easy to stop just don't offer it to the dog. Crying if made to sleep downstairs is kind of normal if she isn't used to it, sleeping on her own bed in your room is surely not an issue?

I think your partner should be more understanding, i personally love having my dog on bed and couldn't be with someone who had a real issue with it.

Can you try an attached crib on your side of the bed and the dog can sleep there? Its hard for some dogs to change sleeping habits if they are older.

This. All of it.

You're being a terrible dog owner, I suspect you're the one who needs training.