Ok so i'm not 5 years old and expect a song and dance on my birthday, I know it's just another day. But I do think it's common courtesy to acknowledge someone's birthday by saying happy birthday if you are with them and being kind to help them feel 'happy' on their birthday .
It's become tradition that myself, a family member, a family friend and my husband come to a festival for few days on my birthday ( it doesn't take a genius to figure out which festival). It's cost us all a small fortune but we always have such a good laugh, i feel lucky I get to act like a kid again, being silly and getting away from the stresses of home. My husband is usually full of jokes, adds to the silliness and is great fun to be around. He does however have form for going into grumps, becoming quiet and not really talking to anyone, but it's usually fixed once he has eaten or had a beer.
This time however, he has spent the entire time in this grump..made no effort to make conversation with anyone, shot down any efforts by everyone else to make conversations with him by answering in short sentences then going back to staring at his phone ( not even looking at anything in particular ( Facebook, sports news etc) he hasn't complained about anything, just said i'm not fussed when we were deciding where to go next, or what to eat etc and just followed the rest of us whatever we ended up deciding.
On my actual birthday i thought he would at least make some effort to come out of this grump, and have the decency to put whatever is going on with him aside and at least be polite to me, but no this grump continued. I woke up he didn't say a word to me. I tried to ask what was up with him,or just talk about anything in general, i got a tut and a look as if to say, why are you speaking to me, fuck off and a one word answer. Can I can say at this point i'm 99% sure I haven't done anything to piss him off ,because I am a very boring person who doesnt really do anything for herself and treats everyone with kindness and hasn't done anything out of the ordinary to have been the cause of his mood turn. Although I could be wrong,
He also told me as we left to come to this festival that he didn't bring a card and presents with him as he didn't see much point bringing things through to haul it back again, and i will get it when we get back. I thought fair enough, he has a point. I'm not bothered about presents just happy with good company on my birthday( which i got with my friend and family member) but it felt like my husband was deliberately making an effort not to be good company. I got eye rolls, tuts, comments like ' how old are you' under his breath. When i triedvto have fun. He spent the entire time scrolling through rubbish on his phone, not talking to anyone refusing to get in any photos or crack a bloody smile. He didn't buy me drink, not even a coffee. I didn't even a get a cuddle. Must most importantly ' in my opinion, because it costs bloody nothing ' I didn't even get a" happy birthday." from him.
I tried my best to have fun and ignore it, I did have some fun. My friend and family member are great company, but my husband pretty much ruined it for me and also i really felt for the others. He ruined it for them too. They could tell he was grumpy and i was disappointed and sad by his behaviour. I can't understand why he would be so selfish.
Il have gifts sitting at home, but I don't want them, I don't care. I just wanted to feel valued and cared for on my actual birthday!