Working through an affair

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Has anyone ever worked through an affair? How did you do it? How did you get over the betrayal.

I know most will say it’s not possible but for a variety of reasons I need to make it possible.

Yes @sunglassesonthetable I’m struggling to see how it proved her ‘point’ too?!

My friend swore by Esther Perel, she has done a lot of writing / talks on infidelity. I am also now a big fan of hers, there's no infidelity but we went through a lull/ rocky patch and I found her work very helpful.

I don't think your circumstances mean you have to make it work. You could make running a business together whilst being separated work.

I wrote a lot of advice and thoughts on this if you search the post 'he's robbed me of a third child' everyone seemed to absolutely hate me but all my thoughts are on there! Good luck xx

This is 100% my experience. The first time he cheated he did actually show remorse. This time I feel like he's just waiting for me to be "better". So I'm just in my own misery and he says things like "you have no joy in you" and "you seem like a different person"...what does he expect? I forgave and trusted him again and out of nowhere, he did it again.