Women - how do attractive women make you feel?

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Inspired by a couple of other threads at the moment. Just interested really.

Straight women - how do you feel when you see a very attractive woman

I've always found myself feeling a bit mixed. I feel like I notice many beautiful women every day and hardly ever a beautiful man.

But I consider myself straight (think I'd be open to not being but who knows) and do fancy the men I have had relationships with, plus a few odd celebrities etc.

I don't really ever check men out though. Very infrequently. But I think I do check women out? But not sexually?

I find myself when out and about noticing women all of the time. Do others?

I also am not sure how I feel about them. Sort of intrigued, maybe jealous, sometimes a bit mean, but they definitely have an impact on me. Sometimes, perhaps like the impact on a man, I'm drawn to keep looking. And then that baffles me. Do I take pleasure from other womens looks or do they bother me somehow (insecurity)?

Im not asking if im gay. Im just interested to know when other women see attractive women out and about what they "feel", in addition to the obvious that they see - "she's beautiful/pretty/attractive" etc

It really was just height @Lwrenagain - very tall and willowy for a teen. So everyone thought I should be a model or a basketballer

Depends of the woman.
I like natural beauty so a natural beautiful woman I will think oh, she is beautiful I wish I had her eyes, lips etc.

If the beauty is related with style even if is not my style I will think she loves her outfit, well done such a patient and commitment to get the clothes sort out any make up on etc.

If she is charming I would think I can copy some of this good mood and take some tips to be a bit more extrovert. Take some advice.

Different beauty different approach and if is close to me I will take some advice even if I don't follow it for longer.

Basically I fell like good on you girl!

I 'check out' everyone, really. 😂

I'm a straight woman but I find that with age, I just admire people who look good. I find myself having to avoid commenting. 'Nice bum!' 'What a lovely mons veneris you have, madam. Beautifully defined.' 'Lovely breasts!'

I'm old and fat. I never want to emulate anyone. I can admire the women who do yoga and can get into unlikely positions that display their vulvas (neatly encased in no-secrets lycra) to the world but I couldn't hope to be like them. I'm a realist. I might do a few stretches to try to stay mobile. 😆

Good looking people are no threat to me. I'm not competing for someone to father children, or trying to maintain a relationship while those children grow. I'm in this world for not much longer (I don't have a date on that but at my age it's inevitable) and I'm happy to enjoy seeing anything lovely without taking it personally.

I'm not totally straight but I've always noticed attractive women.
I think we noticed women more as we have more in common 🤷‍♀️
We can get ideas from their hairstyles,clothes ect so we just look at women more than we look at men.

Well I've noticed who I find stunning others don't. I think it's very personal taste woman's beauty.

I don't feel anything in particular other than wow they're intriguing. I do blush if they smile back at me like a child 😂

It's only annoying if my partner takes it to far, like they're stunning.. I agree then he will spend 30mins professing how wonderful they are 😂 too much just way too much..

I don’t know that I feel anything but I definitely notice when women are well dressed because I love clothes and I like seeing someone who is well put together. If I see a person who is particularly attractive I might think wow they are good looking but again it’s not ‘feeling’. I don’t feel envious or insecure. Being attractive is mostly lucky genetics. I cannot see being jealous of that.

My short chubby teen self is in awe, but also, jealous 😂

This is a funny one for me..
My mother always made me and my sister think other women were a threat, especially attractive ones. She blamed my dad for making her jealous and she has awfully low self esteem. This effected me alot in my teens.. I was jealous of all other attractive women and it made relationships hard. Fast forward 15 years, I actually actively point out attractive women to my husband lol! However, I have also discovered I am bisexual as I find other women sexually attractive.

I don’t often see a good looking man but many women! I do find my husband very attractive though.

No wonder I struggled so much growing up as I was meant to think all women were a threat, yet deep down I actually fancied them myself!!

OK. So this thread came ro mind this evening when I was out.

Turns out, I do a double take and think, "Wow. She's really pretty."

And that's it 😁

@GreyCarpet 😁

If they're naturally beautiful, pretty, stylish, friendly or charming then I'll probably notice them, think "good on you" and not much else.

If they are heavily made up, dressed in a "everyone look at me" way, or come across as vain or self-absorbed then I'd probably notice, think they're probably not my type of person and move on.

There was a thread recently where some poster were convinced women hates on them because they're so beautiful and other women are overcome with jealousy etc. Those type of attitudes would fall into the second camp to me.

I'm attractive so I don't feel threatened or any nonsense like that. I think oh she's attractive.

I agree with this.

I don't ever compare myself to them or wish I looked like that. It is like noticing beautiful architecture, art or a nice car. No more than that.

I tend to wonder about the self esteem of women I perceive as having 'tried too hard'.

I too read something like that - possibly the same thread - and I thought the same. Women generally don't hate other women because of their good looks. But an unattractive character shines though!

I'm attractive so I don't feel threatened or any nonsense like that
Interesting that you think unattractive people are more likely to feel threatened. I'd have thought it was the other way. I've never been attractive, so gorgeous women are not my competition! I don't feel threatened by anyone anyway (too old for that nonsense!) but if I did, surely I'd feel threatened by someone playing in the same league as me?

Definitely not. I think an empathy exists between women who are similarly attractive (thinking of previous threads and posts). You know they'll have experienced similar negative behaviour from women, and more especially men (I mentioned actual stalking I was in the receiving end of).

I've found past threads very helpful in this regard.

Good point. I just find you are what you are and everyone likes different things so why be envious

Oh dear... 🤣

People tend to respond to elicit a response from others based on their personality and character rather than their looks.

Women who think other women hate them because of their looks are, in my opinion and experience, wrong.

Shared experiences of shitty men are pretty universal in my experience.

Shared experiences of shitty men are pretty universal in my experience.
Mine too!

A gorgeous woman will clearly get a higher quantity of unwanted, inappropriate leches coming after her. My (adult) daughter is really pretty (takes after her dad's family :) but it doesn't require a huge leap of imagination on my part to put myself in her shoes and empathise with her experiences.

Glad you think it's amusing @GreyCarpet given I mentioned stalking. I've had past threads about that where I've actually been followed. Yes, everyone will have an experience of 'shitty' men, but some of us have received more unwanted attention on a very regular basis, based on our appearance.

And I'm not of the opinion that women hate me, just that a minority will behave badly. Men are far worse. And as previous posters have also said.

I am a totally heterosexual woman but probably notice women a lot more - usually because I am thinking along the lines of - I like her outfit/bag/makeup etc- wishing I was as slim and so on. Whereas with men, I would only really notice if one was particularly attractive or unusual looking.

I can't help but tell a woman if she's beautiful. Not the ones who you can tell know they are, but the unassuming, simply pretty people

Very envious. I am very ugly and odd looking so when I see an attractive woman, I can't help but feel jealous and also, weirdly intimidated.

You check out other women because you are a woman. Men don't really count. You are probably comparing them to yourself, whether you realise or not. Plus, people watching is a thing, and women offer far more variety in dress and body/hairstyle etc.
I know my son (straight) looks at other men - he works in a male clothes shop as he's very in to fashion and he comments loads about other men's clothes and general style. He looks at women in a totally different way 😳.

Glad you think it's amusing @GreyCarpet given I mentioned stalking. I've had past threads about that where I've actually been followed

Yeah, sorry. I obviously wasn't referring to that and I'm sorry it happened. I had a friend who was stalked (house broken into, hiding at her workplace etc). He was eventually detained for it. Even so, it took her years to finally understand that it wasn't anything to do with her (or her face!) and it was all him. She had been single for very many years because some thoughtless attempts at boosting her confidence early on had left her believing she had to avoid men at all costs because of the affect she had on them. So I understand how serious stalking is and would never minimise it. I'm sorry you've been through it too.

Apparently, I'm attractive 🤷🏻‍♀️ but I've only in my lifetime been conscious of three women who behaved badly towards me because of it.

In every case, the problem was theirs and their attempts to 'eliminate the (perceived) competition' somehow.

But, otherwise, I've never had any problems. I've never had anyone just be arbitrarily unpleasant to me.

I've known a lot of attractive to beautiful women over the years. In my personal experience, when attractive women struggle with other women, it has had more to do with personality and character than their looks.

Badly behaved men? Couldn't even begin to count how many I've had to deal with! But that's because (some) men are arseholes and not because women are attractive or whatever.

Thank you @GreyCarpet

Yes, twice in recent years (yet I'm comparatively old now in my late 30s). In one case I had to change my route and routine, on a day I use the train, as one had been waiting in a doorway for me.

It's possible, in fairness, that I don't come across as friendly to some people. I naturally developed an aloof, unapproachable air over the years.