Women - how do attractive women make you feel?

[mushyplease]

Inspired by a couple of other threads at the moment. Just interested really.

Straight women - how do you feel when you see a very attractive woman

I've always found myself feeling a bit mixed. I feel like I notice many beautiful women every day and hardly ever a beautiful man.

But I consider myself straight (think I'd be open to not being but who knows) and do fancy the men I have had relationships with, plus a few odd celebrities etc.

I don't really ever check men out though. Very infrequently. But I think I do check women out? But not sexually?

I find myself when out and about noticing women all of the time. Do others?

I also am not sure how I feel about them. Sort of intrigued, maybe jealous, sometimes a bit mean, but they definitely have an impact on me. Sometimes, perhaps like the impact on a man, I'm drawn to keep looking. And then that baffles me. Do I take pleasure from other womens looks or do they bother me somehow (insecurity)?

Im not asking if im gay. Im just interested to know when other women see attractive women out and about what they "feel", in addition to the obvious that they see - "she's beautiful/pretty/attractive" etc

I struggle to not behave like I'm sat with a Disney princess 🙈
The most gorgeous woman I've ever seen was a barmaid, I didn't see her prior to going up for drinks and I was like, "why aren't you on a catwalk girl? Why are you wasting your time here?" Obviously I was drunk. She was made up, gave me free tequila, but she was amazing looking.
I felt dead proud of her parents, for making such a gorgeous creature. 😂
Also growing up I didn't see many women who weren't white British and I remember absolutely falling in love with an Indian doctor as a little kid, her features were perfect, her hair was unreal, she was kind and had great bedside manner.
I was really shy around her but also desperately interested in her.

@mushyplease Well no as it’s not the same admiring someone and comparing yourself than it is sexually ogling a woman. If I look at a nice looking woman I would think either I wished I looked like her, that she’s lucky or has worked hard, I might wonder how she manages to look like that and maybe feel jealous or it might make me feel like I want to get my hair done or go to the gym. I wouldn’t likely wonder what she looked like naked or wish I was intimate with her. I am straight. If I was not I might wonder those things about her

If I saw a super hot man in the gym I might think ooh I wonder if he’s a good kisser/in bed/look at those tight guns/buns so it is different

However i will have to caveat that I don’t think all men look at women and automatically think about sex or her being naked they might also think she smells nice or has nice hair and just simply think she looks nice. she might remind him of a partner or relative or friend so he could look at her in a multitude of ways.

I have to say though in my own experience of men they usually are wondering what you look like under your clothes or imagine you sitting on top of them 😑

@mushyplease I said the last part as I recall my ex, who wasn’t a creep or ogler in general and was usually very respectful spending a long really nice evening with me, talking a lot and being really romantic. I had done a silly dance earlier and right at the end of the night we kissed and he said ‘I can’t stop thinking about your boobs jiggling around when you wiggled earlier. Man that was HOT’ and I realised that was mostly what he was going to remember

If I notice an attractive woman I pay attention to what she's doing that could inspire me. And I tend to focus on beautiful female faces in the same way I notice beautiful designs/paintings. They're pleasing to the eye. But I've never felt any sexual stirring or attraction.

However, an attractive man will bring out a more sexual feeling (not that I'd ever act on it as in a relationship). But I definitely notice beautiful men with more excitement, that I don't feel at all for women.

This is interesting OP.

I feel the same as you. I am not attracted to females in any way, but I do notice way more woman than I do men. I just assumed that was because I am not actively looking at men as I have come to the conclusion that I will be single for the rest of my days.

It is very possible that that is because in my age group (mid 50s) there are not really an awful amount of good looking men (sorry chaps, but it is a fact), but there are a lot of beautiful/attractive/pretty woman in this age group.

More recently I have noticed that if I am out the shops or wherever, I will be greeted by, or smiled at, made general chit chat with by more woman. Now I think about it, even when my friend and I go out on occasion. We are always approached more by women then men. If we go out for a dance etc, we will 9/10 be joined by other woman.

And I too like to see what other woman are wearing, how they style their hair, how they can pull of those gym pants and I can't etc etc. It is never envy though. Just appreciation 😀

I'm bi. I only realised it when I separated out women who are "traditionally good-looking" from "attractive to me".

The former I can appreciate, like art. That's all. I can also respect the amount of care and attention some pay to their appearance, regardless of their bone structure and skin. I can wonder if I paid the same amount of attention (and money) to myself how I'd look! 😂

That's all entirely different to those I find attractive. I have a physical reaction to them!

Same with men although it's far rarer I am interested in looking at "traditionally good looking". For some reason I find their features boring, like I've seen them on screen too often.

I think there is a degree of scanning beautiful women to decode what makes them beautiful. I think it's biology. We are programmed to compare and compete

This, I try and work out what it is that is so attractive about her.
I once noticed someone's amazing eyebrows and have used eyebrow pencil on mine ever since as they are dark but sparse.
I don't think it made me beautiful but every little helps!
I also usually think why couldn't that be me ....some people hit the genetic lottery, sadly most of us just don't.

@PostOpOp same here. Took me a long time to realise I was bisexual, because I was very rarely attracted to conventionally beautiful women or conventionally 'gay looking' women. It might sound silly, but the light didn't go on really until my first sexual experience with a woman and then I realised that I could separate those women. I.e, women who were undeniably gorgeous, who I might want to look like or even feel jealousy towards and women who I founded personally gorgeous.

OP, to me it sounds like you're subconsciously sizing them up. I don't think it's anything more than that.

If they are attractive because of their style, clothes, makeup and taking care of their appearance I often wistfully wish they would take me under their wing and be my friend. Maybe show me their secrets to looking so awesome lol.

The type of women I find attractive usually look like me or how I want to look. I've spent a lot of time and money to look the way I do and I'm really happy with my appearance now. If I see an attractive woman I usually recognise that she also bleaches her hair, tans, takes care of her skin etc.

I'm fully straight, don't feel insecure very often.

I'm not sure if this thread is inviting me to comment as I am bi. But I thought it might be worth adding that I did not discover my bi side until I was in my 30s (40s now).

I want to pull their hair, trip them up, stick chewing gum on their jackets and spill my drink in their bag. I want them to walk out of the toilets with a yard of loo roll stuck to their shoe and a false eyelash in their hair. If I'm introduced to one of them socially I will give her a dirty look and won't speak to her because I know she will be after my boyfriend.

I do notice more good looking women than men. I don't feel anything other than admiration or inspiration, or I might wonder where they've bought something they're wearing. I have asked, on occasion. I'm not attracted to women, though.

I received as many compliments from women as men (I used to model in my youth, nothing like catwalk but beauty - hair and makeup). I'm relatively old now, in my late 30s.
Though some minority of women have been just horrible, but that's preferable to unwanted attention from men, including stalking, and being followed, in the last year and a half (I posted about it here, as another poster was going through similar).

its somehow ingrained for the whole of society regardless of gender to view women through a somewhat male gaze.. check out the theories of Laura mulvey..

we often subconsciously judge appearance all the time! Even more so if a woman!!

It is very possible that that is because in my age group (mid 50s) there are not really an awful amount of good looking men (sorry chaps, but it is a fact), but there are a lot of beautiful/attractive/pretty woman in this age group.

I think it's not too dissimilar in the late 30s/40s age group. I see more beautiful women than men.

I usually notice hair first.

Also, same here that I’ve done modelling in past days and was treated so shitty by non-model type women, so bitchy and nasty towards me in normal jobs that I went on to do!

When I see younger, attractive women, I really want to tell them how lovely they look, as many young women don't always realise it themselves. I don't often in case they think I'm weird, ( am in my 50s ), but have done so sometimes when I'm with a friend. A while ago I got on the bus and the female bus driver told me I looked beautiful ( I was wearing a gorgeous outfit tbf) and it was such a nice little boost!

I think cos I'm older I don't feel envious as I've had my time, more appreciative ( and sometimes worried for them because of the attention from creepy men they're likely to attract...)

I’m asexual (only realised in the last 10 yrs - I am mid 40s and married to a man) so no man or woman has ever given me “fanny flutters” and I’ve never wanted to rip anyone’s clothes off in my life…

HOWEVER

…I really appreciate on a purely aesthetic level a beautifully made woman or man. I think more women are beautiful, but there is the odd male specimen that I could look at and appreciate. I feel privileged to be able to appreciate human beauty with no sexual feelings - just pure appreciation.

Oh and beautiful women have never made me feel jealous or inadequate, I have always just been delighted for them (and also aware that nobody is perfect and they’ve probably got their share of pain, trauma or inner ugliness too, just like the rest of us)

I think I must be a bisexual asexual!

Ohhhh I have to pick up on this - I know you were being nice but it's a real sore point.

I used to get the 'you should be a model!' when I was young - all to do with height and build I promise you, I was not spectacularly beautiful then and certainly not now! It was really annoying and insulting.

Women are more than their looks, hopefully all young beautiful women have talents and ambitions that go beyond a few years of being paid to look pretty. That barmaid might have been working to put herself through medical school or training for the Olympics... anything at all really, would be better than being chewed up and spat out by vacuous, misogynistic fashion industry.

So the obvious answer to 'why aren't you on the catwalk girl?' is 'because I'm too smart and capable for that shit' but she was too nice to say so

I check everyone out on one level or another.
Women I tend to notice for things I'd like to do to emulate, so clothing and hair ideas.
Men for the phwoar factor or for being well put together. I saw a guy in the supermarket today who was gorgeous Hubba Hubba! 😆

I definitely notice a good looking / hot man before I notice a beautiful woman. Probably cause I don’t think most men are attractive ( or I’m not attracted to most men) and most women are at least average in looks (to me).

what will make me notice a woman is her body, if she has a curvy body with a big bum and hips then I will definitely feel jealous cause I have an apple/inverted triangle shape and I hate it. I also will get jealous of a woman with great thick hair esp since mine is very thin.

I find myself looking at attractive women but tends to be only in an appreciative way... And wishing that I looked attractive too. I've never really had any compliments or interest even when I was younger so it's very alien to me. Am married but I suspect that DH only married me for personality.

I notice younger women to be honest and wish I was young again. It’s such a great thing to be young and at your peak (20’s) yet most don’t know it and have lots of insecurities.

@Seddon you raise very good points. I'm no longer a teenager and can control what I say much more effectively 😂 thankfully 🤞🏻

It's funny you say you weren't spectacularly beautiful. I mean this not to be goady but how do you know that? Surely being suggested for modelling often would mean you have something? Loads of women are tall and slim and nobody suggests modelling.
Kate moss isn't conventionally beautiful but she is amazing looking.
Lots of truly beautiful women don't consider themselves to be, my absolute woman crush (if she reads here she'll think I'm obsessed with her 😳) is Gwendoline Christie (brienne from GOT) and I think she's probably one of the most beautiful women in the world, yet she did a show for 10 years to be ridiculed for being ugly.

You might not be the most conventional model looking woman, but people obviously saw something in you to suggest it and whilst you've obviously achieved things far greater than being admired for your looks, you still can't discount the fact people have thought of you as beautiful.

Tis in the eye of the beholder as they say!