Erectile Dysfunction

[Cindy1990]

I had a huge fight with my husband with which I have two children. He said some really hurtful things about me so I faced him with erectile dysfunction.
I love him despite all his flaws but he was hurting me very badly so it just came out.
It's been a month now, he blocked me on all social media platform, he is not even asking about the children. He is sleeping at his parents house.
I wrote him more than 15 apology texts with no answer.
What do you think shall I do? Should I keep reaching out to him even though he is not answering? Should I give him space?
Awaiting your feedback ladies.

So he can say hurtful things but you can't ?

Has he apologised ?

I think the relationship is over and so it should be.

Yes I was thinking the same thing @FedUpMumof10YO . He didn't even bother to apologize.

As you've reached out to him multiple times, and it's been a month, and you've not had any contact, I think you need to contact him somehow and say that unless he responds and is open to a reconciliation, then the relationship is over and you need to separate formally with a view to divorce. Even if he does respond saying he is open to a reconciliation, it sounds like things are so broken that a proper reconciliation is unlikely, but you need to mentally begin to accept that your marriage is probably over.

I get he's hurt and angry but what about your kids? Has his parents or anyone been in touch to make sure your all ok? Could this be his get out clause that he's been looking for, just easier for him as your seen as the bad guy. Stay strong

I will try@guineacup although its a harsh truth considering that we have two children ( 4 and 2 years old).

@Ohdearwhatnow4 Neither he nor his parents are asking about the kids. But as you have said this might be his get out clause. If this what it is, then i don't need a such man that leaves his family behind when things get tough.

So he can say hurtful things but you can't ?

This.

People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones and all that.

Looks like you need to be the adult going forwards so I'd agree with sending him a final message as suggested above.

If this what it is, then i don't need a such man that leaves his family behind when things get tough.

Correct!

His feelings are hurt so he has ignored his children? That's awful, I would stop apologising, tell him stay where he is. I can't believe he is punishing his children like that. He is a useless father.

ED is the cruelest thing to mock a man over I'm not saying that it justifys any of his hurtful comments to you. But that is something he can't do anything about

Write a letter saying this will be your last communication with him. Be clear. He had to communicate or this is the end of your marriage and to not see the children is punishing them and is cruel

Add if he refuses to communicate you will then have no option but to contact a solicitor and arrange custody agreement

The next form of communication should be divorce papers.

@Tempone this is what hurt me the most

@Maddy70 Agree. I shouldn't have said that. However, things should be put into perspective.

What an arsehole.
Firstly he can say horrible things but not you?
Secondly, I really couldn’t forgive someone who could walk out on their kids and not see them or contact them for a month because they are mad at me.
No more apologies, he hasn’t extended one to you. Set him straight, like PP suggested and if no response start divorce proceedings.

Did the ED have anything to do with getting the snip? Out of interest before we go ahead with it 😆

What was he saying to you?

@OrlandointheWilderness he was accusing me of being a whore

@OrlandointheWilderness he said horrible things out of anger, so i took it personally and replied back with issues about his ED. I don't how we got into this level of disrespect. Very horrible.

Oh classy. In which case I wouldn't feel bad about it at all tbh, I'd be very firmly ending this. No one who loves you would call you a whore.

Is he apologising for calling you a whore!?!

I'm guessing not!!

He calls you a whore.
He can't get it up.
He doesn't give a shit about his young children.

He's shown you who he is. This marriage is over, OP. I think you'll feel a huge weight lifted when you move on from this.

In my experience men with ED are a frustrating nightmare. They won’t speak about or address the problem, medically or otherwise. You’re expected to simply put up with a life completely devoid of intimacy and be happy about that. As soon as you raise it (in anger or gently) it’s wrong, they won’t speak with you, ignore you, block you.

I walked away and now won’t date guys with ED. I’m amazed at how many men in their 40s & 50s have this problem.

If he can’t take it he shouldn’t dish it out. Outrageous behaviour on his part.

@WatieKatie omg this is what's exactly happening. You are expected to always be happy and satisfied about it. And if not, you become the bad person. I can relate.

@WatieKatie and the worst part is the denial of having ED. They refuse to be helped and at least to confess about the problem.

He does not respect you calling you a whore is unacceptable and the fact that he has run back to Mummy and Daddy is pathetic. Leave him.