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Erectile Dysfunction

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Cindy1990 · 24/07/2023 07:59

I had a huge fight with my husband with which I have two children. He said some really hurtful things about me so I faced him with erectile dysfunction.
I love him despite all his flaws but he was hurting me very badly so it just came out.
It's been a month now, he blocked me on all social media platform, he is not even asking about the children. He is sleeping at his parents house.
I wrote him more than 15 apology texts with no answer.
What do you think shall I do? Should I keep reaching out to him even though he is not answering? Should I give him space?
Awaiting your feedback ladies.

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Maray1967 · 25/07/2023 17:57

Justcallmebebes · 25/07/2023 16:39

I can't understand why you're being so passive and accommodating. He's verbally abusive towards you, can't get it up, which is your fault, and is emotionally negligent towards his v young children. Where's your anger?

You should change the locks and serve him with divorce papers. Pathetic excuse of a man and father and you're letting him do this

This. Given what he said to you he would get no apology if I was you.

goingcrazy142904 · 25/07/2023 19:52

He sounds awful!! Has he contributed towards the bills/children during this time?
I'd be seeing a solicitor and filing for divorce if he hadn't asked about the children or seen them during this time

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Cindy1990 · 26/07/2023 07:40

@Maray1967 Your words are like a slap in my face. I should have set boundaries long time ago, it took time because i was feeling sorry for him and I don't want the kids to grow up without a father. Thank you for your message dear.

@goingcrazy142904 I think it's about time to make the next move.

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Naunet · 26/07/2023 07:54

Jesus, where’s your anger? This pig of a man called you a whore, blamed you for his dick not working and is now having a tantrum over his fragile little ego being dented so hasn’t spoken to his own children for a month?! He’s disgusting, and a terrible, terrible excuse for a parent. Could you imagine ever doing that? Going off in a strop and not parenting your own kids? It’s unacceptable.

Maray1967 · 26/07/2023 09:44

Cindy1990 · 26/07/2023 07:40

@Maray1967 Your words are like a slap in my face. I should have set boundaries long time ago, it took time because i was feeling sorry for him and I don't want the kids to grow up without a father. Thank you for your message dear.

@goingcrazy142904 I think it's about time to make the next move.

I can see I was a bit direct - apologies. But I hope you can see how much the posters on here want you to understand how badly he has behaved. It’s not great to throw ED back in an argument BUT this man has blamed you for it ( what the hell?!!) and called you a whore. He has now shown you how little he cares about his own children. He does not deserve them and they need to be protected from him. I think many women cling to the understandable wish for their children to have their dad at home rather than kick him out/not try to get him back if he walks out- but sadly very often it appears that ditching him is by far the better move.

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Cindy1990 · 26/07/2023 12:02

Thank you @Maray1967 . You and the ladies make perfect sense. I will try to do what's best for the children. Thank you for your awakening and supportive messages ❤

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