Yes, school and nursery also made referrals. I asked them to and they did. Social services assigned a child protection social worker when that is not what we need. They did their safeguarding review. It concluded that I am an excellent parent and there are zero safeguarding concerns. On one page it said that the children have support needs, and on the next page that children's services would not provide any support. No explanation. The social worker doing this review behaved in a very inappropriate manner numerous times, making comments denying that my children have disabilities, and then comments about my house saying "why should we help you when you have a job?".
I made a stage one complaint. Ignored for months. The response when finally received did not answer the points raised in the complaint. I escalated it to stage two. Statutory deadline for their response came and went without them even appointing an investigator. A year later they still have no even begun their investigation.
In the meantime I referred us again to the children with disabilities team, who despite having reports from all of these other professionals stating the children's level of needs (both receive highest rate care DLA also) refuse to acknowledge this or perform the needs assessment that is a statutory duty to carry out upon request. They tried to tell me that they aren't entitled to be under CWD because they don't have learning disabilities. I sent them their own criteria demonstrating that this is not part of the criteria, and reiterating - with evidence from professionals - how each of the criteria are met and asking which one they dispute and why. And their own criteria that state that children with middle or highest rate care DLA automatically qualify for respite, so why are they still refusing this? Tumbleweed.
They need ongoing therapy for trauma caused by their father (who they have not had any contact with whatsoever since this was discovered, obviously. Not even a phone call). I funded a private psychologist for as long as I could but can't continue to do that as a lone parent. The psychologist's report states they need long-term therapy.
They need specialist childcare. They cannot go to group settings. If they are to stay in mainstream education then this is essential. I have been funding nannies to plug the gap. Again, I cannot continue to do this and why should I?
They need respite. They are automatically entitled to this and do not receive it.
They refuse to perform the statutory needs assessment so that they don't have to provide the required support package, and instead claim that ALL of these other professionals are wrong.
If they continue not to receive this support my health and financial situation will be pushed over the edge and rather than spending 10% of the tax I pay on the support my children are meant to have, my health will collapse and I will lose my job and the children will lose their home and stability and the loving parent who cares for them.
Not only callous but presumably it'll be much more expensive to provide them with a care place for the next decade plus.
They should be utterly ashamed of themselves.