Accidentally rated boyfriend 8 out of 10

[littlebird26]

I really really hope somebosy can help me make sense of this or offer advice.
The other day I was talking to my bf on the phone and during the conversation it somehow lead to him rating himself as a 7 out of 10 and I said no your definitley at least an 8. I said without thinking. Because I thought 8 is higher and a realistic score. I definitley dont see myself as higher than that either.
No he is completely distraught saying I should have said 10 and how could I think its ok to rate him as an 8 as thats me saying that there are people far more attractive than him and I should make him feel that I think he is a 10 even if its not true.

But the thing is I do think he is increadibly attractive and I didnt mean any offence by it at all. IF it had be me I wouldnt have taken it so personally as I think 8 is a high score. But now I understand thagt I should have said 10 but I cant tke it back and don't know what to do. As I have tried evvvvvvvvvvvvvverything in my power to convince him that I dont think anyone else is better or more attractive but he keeps bringing it up now as soon as I think we are ok.
I dont know what to do or its even possible for me to fix this now.
But I am desperate for answers or some kind of advice because do really love him. And tbh I feel like rating people is silly and demeaning anyway and would never have said anything had it not been brought up in conversation.

Please can anyone help me figure this out I'm at my wits end and I really do want to show him how much I care and that I do see him as a 10.
But im worried its not possible. As no matter what I say he just obsesses over it now.

Fucks sake is he 12?

Are you 12?

Hmm he doesn't sound like an 8 to me..

Are you 12?

You need to get a grown up for a boyfriend.

Unless your boyfriend is Brad Pitt he needs to get a grip

That behaviour takes him down to a 4/5 (year-old)

Does he actually think there is no one on earth more attractive than him?

Dump him so you're free for the summer holidays and maybe he'll grow up a bit once he starts his BTECs.

That's probably the most pathetic thing I've heard in a long, long time.

You didn't say 8, you said at least an 8. That means he might even be a 9.

Don't worry, you'll be back at school soon enough.

Who actually rates people this way in real life?

Hmmm... I know I am not a 10 (and I am not 12 years old either). But if asked I would have expected my DH to say that of course I am a 10. And I would say the same to him back. We would both know that this is subjective but we have the kind of relationship where we care and are kind to each other (and can also joke about the way we look!).

😂

Nearly 9 is a pretty good score.

He sounds weird and like a walking red flag. First of all, rating yourself is a deep insecurity. Second, fishing for compliments is really unattractive. Lastly guilting you is a sign he's looking to be abusive in the future.

Fuck's sake.

Replies are a bit harsh. My exH said this to me and it really just emphasized that I seen him as the only guy for me and brad Pitt couldn't turn my head, so by default he was a 10. Even though I know there are more attractive guys out there and to others he was probably a 7, he was a ten to me. Him saying I was an 8 highlighted to me he doesn't look at me how I look at him. We're getting divorced. Lol

Oh God this reminds me of a massive argument I had with my best friend when we were 11 and I rated Morten Hacket a 10 out of 10. She was livid! Thankfully we have matured since then and I am sure that you and your boyfriend will too.

You’re not old enough for a boyfriend. He isn’t old enough for a girlfriend.

Grow up. What an idiotic situation.

God he sounds utterly pathetic. His whiney, childish behaviour is just insufferable, moping around trying to fish for compliments and ‘rating’ himself (and others 👀) is teenager stuff.

Bloody hell.

I mean, I can see how being on the receiving end might be a bit ego-wounding but an 8 is pretty solid. I can only think of one man I'd rate as an objective 10 (looking at you Chris Hemsworth) and I think an objectively lower-rating celebrity is a lot hotter (Dermot Mulroney circa. The Wedding Date) so it doesn't even mean anything anyway.

I once had an ex who rated me a 6, and said ‘Well, it’s above average, why are you disappointed?’ We were about 18/19 (going on 12) at the time, to be fair.

I wouldn't have the patience for this nonsense...he'd have to go. Sorry!

I really hate rating people like they're an item of clothing or being out if someone's league....

He needs to grow up and in future, don't get drawn into immature conversations.

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