Accidentally rated boyfriend 8 out of 10

[littlebird26]

I really really hope somebosy can help me make sense of this or offer advice.
The other day I was talking to my bf on the phone and during the conversation it somehow lead to him rating himself as a 7 out of 10 and I said no your definitley at least an 8. I said without thinking. Because I thought 8 is higher and a realistic score. I definitley dont see myself as higher than that either.
No he is completely distraught saying I should have said 10 and how could I think its ok to rate him as an 8 as thats me saying that there are people far more attractive than him and I should make him feel that I think he is a 10 even if its not true.

But the thing is I do think he is increadibly attractive and I didnt mean any offence by it at all. IF it had be me I wouldnt have taken it so personally as I think 8 is a high score. But now I understand thagt I should have said 10 but I cant tke it back and don't know what to do. As I have tried evvvvvvvvvvvvvverything in my power to convince him that I dont think anyone else is better or more attractive but he keeps bringing it up now as soon as I think we are ok.
I dont know what to do or its even possible for me to fix this now.
But I am desperate for answers or some kind of advice because do really love him. And tbh I feel like rating people is silly and demeaning anyway and would never have said anything had it not been brought up in conversation.

Please can anyone help me figure this out I'm at my wits end and I really do want to show him how much I care and that I do see him as a 10.
But im worried its not possible. As no matter what I say he just obsesses over it now.

Ops

It's not a weird thing to discuss when you're joking but it's a very very very childish thing to take so seriously... He sounds like a peach!

You lost me at "completely distraught" OP. Not a normal reaction at all, especially if he rated himself lower (hunting for a compliment, clearly, SUCH an unattractive quality!)

He sounds childish at best, potentially controlling at worst - look how you're panicking / second guessing yourself trying to make things 'better' for him! If you feel able to, just take a breath and a step back and have a think about this scenario and if you really are needing to make anything 'right.

Let him get back to his Lego and make him some warm milk and biscuits then hopefully he'll have come to his senses and you can go and play out with the rest of the kids on the street once his red teary eyes have cleared!
It this for real?

Lol tel him I'd only rate my husband a six and I'm legally attached to him.

Well I'd have the ick by his needy childish reaction. 8 is high. He's an idiot.

Why is he rating himself?

Why are you dating someone that you only rate as an 8? Time to find yourself someone much hotter. Life’s too short to be with 8/10.

You're on dangerous ground with this no matter what you say. 'Oh you're a 10 to me!' is so fake, anything less than a 10 and they get offended. Whatever 'rating' you had in your head has instantly dropped anyway because insecurity and fishing for compliments is the instant ick.

You can't win.

Oh. I thought the problem was going to be that you had accidentally objectified and demeaned him by rating his attractiveness.
But no.

Maybe send a list of celebrities you also consider to be an 8, and choose ones that are much more attractive than him.

He sounds needy and childish
I don’t know why you would even join in with that conversation op, it wasn’t going to end well

Gosh you both seem to be taking this far too seriously!

Does he honestly think there is no man that is better looking than he is? Not even Brad Pitt or similar?

So does he think he's George Clooney or Brad Pitt?

Seriously, I'm no supermodel so would never expect to be rated a 10.

The rating thing is weird, but why are you with someone that you don’t think is 10/10, if you must rate them?

Aw young love. I don't miss it 😅

He wishes

Presumably she meant appearance alone

Are the school holidays always this insane?

I have a feeling even an 8 was overly generous.

Presumably she meant appearance alone

I know. Don't settle for a 7/10....that’s not going to be pretty in years to come.

I thought this was going to be about sexual performance 😆 now that would really sting

Oh come on. Be realistic.

I don't think my husband is a 10 out of 10 for looks!!!!

Doesn't mean I don't love him though!

She hasn't. She's settled for at least an 8.

She hasn't. She's settled for at least an 8.

She was just being kinder than he was by the sounds of it. 7 or 8, meh.

Tell him you thought it was a joke because adults don’t give themselves a ‘rating’.

And if he doesn’t shut up, say you’re distraught that he rated himself as a 7 and thinks he’s still good enough for you! You're only accepting ratings of 8 and above so he can piss right off.

Ha ha ha, he only rated himself 7/10 and he's having a go at you, sounds so immature...