His friends are naked insta models half his age

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OLD: I’m early days, non exclusive, with a nice guy, early 40s. He’s not conventionally attractive but fun to be around and I do fancy him. We see each other every week/couple of weeks.

He has lots of female friends of all ages, and lots of them are young gym instagram model types who put endless videos of themselves in nothing but thongs in bed, or thong bikinis. He goes for dinner with them or takes them on his yacht and tags them and him together in photos, they put photos of them looking nice at the restaurant or the yacht but don’t put him in their photos (!)

He also goes for dinner with much older women friends. He asked once why I was jealous of his gym friends and not his octogenarian friends once. It was a good question! I think of myself as a feminist and I am (was?) fairly confident about my body and my looks, but I find myself really judging these women using instagram as their own personal page 3, and feeling insecure about his friendships with them.

Is that a stupid reason to cut contact with him!? I can’t articulate it “because you’re friends with hot people!?” sounds insane. Thank you MN!

I have an image of Peter Stringfellow in my head now. Hope that goes soon!

Have you seen the yacht yet? In real life I mean.

Haha, this!! We all know someone like this 🙄

Oh OP, I have just realised you are the same poster who caught your date with another woman after he said he was going to see his grandad. Your "your granddad's looking well" comment was brilliant and you are therefore waaaay too good for icky yacht man!

He sounds like an airhead. Reboot your feminist values, and find someone with a bit more brain and integrity.

That’s me! Some girls have all the luck! 😂😩

Feminism is about not demeaning other women regardless of who they are.

If women choose to pose on Instagram in bikinis etc they are allowed to.

Women are raped wearing their jeans. Your post is supporting the myth that clothing has anything to do with it.

OP's post about "personal page 3" is misognystic.

Feminism is about supporting women’s choices and gender equality, wether it’s becoming CEO of General Motors, becoming an online protein milkshake entrepreneur, discovering the next vaccine or posing in a bikini. Telling women what they’re supposed and not supposed to do is what the patriarchy has been doing for centuries. F-ck that.

Paris Hilton has never struck me as the sharpest knife in the drawer.

Not that there's anything wrong with that, but it did make her more vulnerable to men like him.

You can just break up. You don't need to square this with your feminist philosophy or even understand it logically yourself. You don't owe him anything, you just met.

I certainly would find this very off-putting. It's not my values and relationships with mismatched values turn into fight fests.

There's a massive area in space where someone can be not a bastard, not a cheat, not a habitual.liar but simply prioritises such different things that it's not going to enhance your life.

You're an educated woman. You've developed your views through experience and reflection over many years.

And if his actions don't give you a sense you're on the same page then that's enough to end it.

@TheoTheopolis23 Paris Hilton has never struck me as the sharpest knife in the drawer.

That’s what a thought till I saw her documentary and heard her speaking and just being herself and not pulling that ditzy blond act . She’s a millionaire with her own fashion and beauty brands, a property portfolio, a husband who adores her and a beautiful child. Not bad for someone who was “not the sharpest tool”. Her grandad disinherited long time ago so she never received a family cent. She created an empire by herself. She also works her butt off. Watching her documentary changed my perception of her. I would recommend you to watch it too. This is an incredibly business Savvy woman.

What happened with the grandad bloke btw?

Probably discarded and waiting for yatch boy to join him 🤣

Sorry, I refuse to engage with anyone who thinks pointing out the cruel reality of rape is boring.

Sounds shallow and needs an ego boost.however there are a fair few with money who are like this.

That's putting it lightly.

However since you've acknowledged that il engage.

My point is, where does ownership start and end? If a woman wants to pose on a yacht on her bikini or g string (given ops artistic license I'd be interested to know how bad these photos are), who's business is it?

OP isnt remotely concerned about these women. Shes concerned about her weird boyfriend hanging around with them, otherwise she wouldn't give them a second thought.

By all means, enter discussions about the porn industry, exploitation, and rape. Absolutely. And the very valid points ahout body image.

But this is not rhe issue here,and bringing in deliberately controversial topics to appease OPs mind that her boyfriend is odd is totally out of line.

Paris Hilton did not become rich by making sex tapes. She is an heiress. Have you heard of Hilton Hotels? That’s her family

Yep, and she got completely disinherited by grandpa Hilton when the sex tape came out. She hasn’t received a dime from her family, had to work her butt of, play ditzy blond to fool everyone and create a million dollar fashion and cosmetic empire. Was she born into privilege? Absolutely. Did she capitalise on her surname? Absolutely. Had she become famous was she born in a social housing project ? Probably not.

Wait, so she lost access to millions of dollars and was forced to make money because of that sex tape?

I'm not sure how that relates to your point then.

OP, sounds like the guy is banging these young women in exchange for using his boat as a location for photos for their online business.

It's not rocket science or even that novel. Clearly you're not going to get an exclusive relationship with this guy. Maybe you don't want one, so the arrangement might work out. It's up to you.

Ha! He sounds like a budget wannabe Dan Bilzerian 😂

Lose him.

😂😂😂 nice comeback, though.

'I'm a feminist' Lol.
No, no you're not.

Dating a creepy guy who hangs out with 20 somethings on his yacht. And annoyed at the girls for it.

You're about thr farthest thing from a feminist I've seen on here in a long time.