I've been with DP for 5 years this year and we have an 18 month old son and a baby due in August.
I've never really seen the point of getting married and have avoided it because I don't see why I should! However, recently, it's started to make a bit more sense, but only for practical reasons, cheaper car insurance, yadda yadda. It's not very romantic but then I don't feel the need to make a massive expensive gesture to prove we love each other- I reckon bearing two children probably gets the point across!
I've also never wanted a big wedding and the thought of a trad do and saying all that stuff while everyone we know watches makes me feel sick with fear! It's just not for me, and whilst DP isn't that fussed I think he'd like to make a bit more of it than I do.
But recently, for some reason that I can't explain (probably pregnancy hormones) I feel like I just want to sign the papers asap, before the baby is born. I couldn't give a crap about it beign "born in wedlock", DS wasn't and I don't set any store by that because I'm not religious. I'd just like to be married by then, for some reason, and maybe have an informal party to celebrate, perhaps a year on when things aren't so manic.
Has anyone done anything like this? Does it feel "not proper" if you sneak off and just sign the papers? Would I regret not doing something more memorable in years to come? I can't see me ever changing my mind and wanting a ceremony in front of lots of people, but should we have at least parents? But then, that would lead to faffing...Will stop waffling, but can anyone offer any advice/anecdotes please?