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Got ghosted.. then he came back to dramatically flounce. Hilarious

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brimfulofsmashaonthe45 · 01/07/2023 21:18

Ok, so got ghosted by long term friend but brief fling.

Fine.

Obviously he's a dick, but wait until you hear this.

He left me unread last week, so I quietly went about my life. Didn't text, kept the dignity intact.

I unfriended him on FB. I didn't block him, just removed him as a friend.

Today I got a message asking if I was ok, quickly followed by a rant about how I deleted him and then he flounced and blocked me.

Dear God. This one is nearly 40.

At least I'm finding it funny. I've been friends with this man for decades. How did I not see the beacons and red flags?

OP posts:
QueefQueen80s · 03/07/2023 10:49

@yipeeyiyay If you go to Blocking in settings, it lets you find them there to add to blocked list, even if they have blocked you.

yipeeyiyay · 03/07/2023 14:57

QueefQueen80s · 03/07/2023 10:49

@yipeeyiyay If you go to Blocking in settings, it lets you find them there to add to blocked list, even if they have blocked you.

Thanks!

AngryGreasedSantaCatcus · 03/07/2023 17:40

Sendmymillioninaninvoice · 03/07/2023 08:51

I think you are being slightly unfair- I have a very large family, work long hours, have friends all over and lots of commitments. I usually explain my situation in advance to people and actually know lots of people in the same situation who behave similarly so generally it’s not an issue.

I did make friends with a childless person recently who was texting 4/5 times a day and they clearly were expecting more interaction so I gently took them through what an average day looks like, explained how much free time I get to text and we are cool now.

Definitely not a serial ghoster! In fact I’ve bern ghosted a few times and taken it on the chin.

Do you also make plans and simply don't show up without letting the other person know?

yipeeyiyay · 03/07/2023 20:05

Sendmymillioninaninvoice · 03/07/2023 08:45

There was a whole thread on here about ghosting- people don’t want to provoke an outburst/have a confrontation or say things that can’t be unsaid so they ghost- because just maybe, they want to be on speaking terms later. So, in those circumstances ghosting is much more polite than telling someone why the relationship isn’t going to work and hurting their feelings. They could also be going through something or having a wobble- although apparently not in your case.

If a person wants to talk to the other person in future then ghosting is literally the last thing they should do. Are you serious? You think ghosting someone and the. Suddenly reappearing in the future is normal behaviour? It's weird and rude and universally accepted as such. You probably think standing someone up/not turning up on a pre arranged meet up is kind too.

Sendmymillioninaninvoice · 04/07/2023 08:01

Actually no yippeeyay. I’ve been ghosted three times in the last couple of months- one time I had bought tickets and ended up not going to the event, another time my weekend was ruined etc. However, I am still speaking to these people because sometimes life gets in the way.

I am just pointing out that saying “you are too possessive and needy, you don’t have a clue how much responsibility a big family is and I’ve finally met someone who might be the one after years of being alone” is unforgiveably bitchy and there’s no coming back from it. I do relate to the OP- he shouldn’t have ghosted; but it might be literally that he didn’t want to say something he regretted. I know a couple of people who have ghosted me locally, upsetting at the time but 2 years later I am glad they didn’t come at me with some horrible “it’s not me, it’s you” type comment.

supercali77 · 04/07/2023 08:43

@Sendmymillioninaninvoice But noone has to say 'it's not you, it's me', it doesn't need to be that deep. it takes 5 seconds to say you're too busy to make an event. Or to tell someone you're not sure you'll be able to see them for a while due to work. Or whatever.

Sendmymillioninaninvoice · 04/07/2023 10:23

Point taken supercal and of course my hypothetical example is probably more bitchy than this guy would have been. I was just trying to explain why some people do it. My bet is, he wanted a couple of weeks “off” was probably chatting to someone else and didn’t expect to get called out on it

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