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New boyfriend keeps looking?

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 21:48

At himself in mirrors, reflective surfaces and mobile phone reflection ?

He does this a lot. Hes cute and some of his friends even say that he kinda resembles Ian somerhalder but I don't understand the obsession of constantly looking at himself?

Is this low self esteem or narcissistic?

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Bluebells1970 · 30/06/2023 21:49

He loves himself.

Only you can decide if that's cute or revolting....

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 21:54

Bluebells1970 · 30/06/2023 21:49

He loves himself.

Only you can decide if that's cute or revolting....

He seems insecure though. If he is rejected sexually he becomes sulky and passive aggressive but wont let go of the girl. He did this with me for 2 years that despite me.not wanting to.hook up, he kept contact with me , even if it meant talking for just a few minutes for 2 years. I had tried to cut him off but he never agreed.

He had deleted me on whatsapp after 1 argument when he did something bad but after 8 months of the argument (we made up after 2 weeks of the argument but he did not save my number) he said he realised that I look out for him and re-added me

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F0XCUB · 30/06/2023 21:58

Girl? How old are you?

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 22:01

F0XCUB · 30/06/2023 21:58

Girl? How old are you?

I'm 29

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SunflowerTed · 30/06/2023 22:01

Pykyek · 30/06/2023 22:01

I'm 29

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Are you sure? You seem about 12?

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 22:03

SunflowerTed · 30/06/2023 22:01

Are you sure? You seem about 12?

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What is your opinion on above?

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Valhalla17 · 30/06/2023 22:07

Why is he your new boyfriend? You've said nothing nice about him at all. Read your post back to yourself.

Dump him and move on.

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 22:09

Valhalla17 · 30/06/2023 22:07

Why is he your new boyfriend? You've said nothing nice about him at all. Read your post back to yourself.

Dump him and move on.

I like him that's why and I feel attracted to him. But I'm asking you all so can you tell?

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Porageeater · 30/06/2023 22:19

Looking in mirrors wouldn’t bother me in itself but all the other stuff would

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 22:23

Porageeater · 30/06/2023 22:19

Looking in mirrors wouldn’t bother me in itself but all the other stuff would

What do you think of the other stuff? Obsessive??

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determinedtomakethiswork · 30/06/2023 22:24

Why are you having anything to do with him? Serious question.

Anaemiafog · 30/06/2023 22:27

Seriously, he's not the one. Throw him back and move on.

SmileyClare · 30/06/2023 22:37

He’s insecure with a massive (fragile) ego- one of the worst traits in a man. Recognise he’s using manipulation to control/punish you.

This is an indicator of coercive abuse.

Stop making excuses for him.

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 22:38

SmileyClare · 30/06/2023 22:37

He’s insecure with a massive (fragile) ego- one of the worst traits in a man. Recognise he’s using manipulation to control/punish you.

This is an indicator of coercive abuse.

Stop making excuses for him.

Punish me? How?

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Original poster
Pykyek · 30/06/2023 22:38

Anaemiafog · 30/06/2023 22:27

Seriously, he's not the one. Throw him back and move on.

Can you explain why?

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GreyCarpet · 30/06/2023 22:54

Pykyek · 30/06/2023 22:38

Can you explain why?

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If he is rejected sexually he becomes sulky and passive aggressive

I had tried to cut him off but he never agreed.

He had deleted me on whatsapp after 1 argument when he did something bad

So, pretty much everything you've said about him...

Aquamarine1029 · 30/06/2023 22:58

Come on now, op. You're just being daft. This guy is a loser and you sound shockingly immature. At 29 you should be a lot more sensible than you seemingly are.

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 23:02

GreyCarpet · 30/06/2023 22:54

If he is rejected sexually he becomes sulky and passive aggressive

I had tried to cut him off but he never agreed.

He had deleted me on whatsapp after 1 argument when he did something bad

So, pretty much everything you've said about him...

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This is what I said.
You have said nothing of your own as to why I should leave him

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Ireolu · 30/06/2023 23:02

The responses you get on threads OP are determined by what you have written. Read what you have written about him (so many red flags!!) and then decide what you want to do. Stop asking strangers on the Internet to decipher it for you.

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 23:02

Aquamarine1029 · 30/06/2023 22:58

Come on now, op. You're just being daft. This guy is a loser and you sound shockingly immature. At 29 you should be a lot more sensible than you seemingly are.

I can't understand what the problem is?

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 23:03

Ireolu · 30/06/2023 23:02

The responses you get on threads OP are determined by what you have written. Read what you have written about him (so many red flags!!) and then decide what you want to do. Stop asking strangers on the Internet to decipher it for you.

I'm asking because I don't know what red flags are there. Can you explain so I can understand?

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Ireolu · 30/06/2023 23:04

I have reported this thread. cab.

doozledog · 30/06/2023 23:04

He's vain and he sounds creepy

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 23:08

doozledog · 30/06/2023 23:04

He's vain and he sounds creepy

Creepy in what sense?

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Pykyek · 30/06/2023 23:08

Ireolu · 30/06/2023 23:04

I have reported this thread. cab.

Reporting for what?
Not one reply giving opinion but coming onto to report.

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