New boyfriend keeps looking?

[Pykyek]

At himself in mirrors, reflective surfaces and mobile phone reflection ?

He does this a lot. Hes cute and some of his friends even say that he kinda resembles Ian somerhalder but I don't understand the obsession of constantly looking at himself?

Is this low self esteem or narcissistic?

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@Pykyek

Are you polling to see if you should stay with this guy? If you need to conduct a poll to determine the future of your relationship, that should be your answer.

You don't feel secure in your own decision making. Let him go and work on developing confidence in your own decision making skills.

How much is too much in gazing at oneself in a mirror? How much is too little when avoiding looking at oneself in a mirror? What is the magic number in the mirror looking practice?

This place has become quite odd recently, lots of very juvenile people posting. Is this the school holiday effect? I'm finding it a bit unsettling, creepy naivete.

I also asked about this
He seems insecure though. If he is rejected sexually he becomes sulky and passive aggressive but wont let go of the girl. He did this with me for 2 years that despite me.not wanting to.hook up, he kept contact with me , even if it meant talking for just a few minutes for 2 years. I had tried to cut him off but he never agreed.

He had deleted me on whatsapp after 1 argument when he did something bad but after 8 months of the argument (we made up after 2 weeks of the argument but he did not save my number) he said he realised that I look out for him and re-added me

You think your in control of this situation and your only giving him 2 minutes of your time in 2 years when really he's just keeping you on a string. Trust me your not the only one on one of his fishing rods. Cut him loose before you get hurt. I know you said your age but it's obvious your young so maybe go have a hot chocolate and play Pokémon or something

If you reject him sexually he becomes sulky and passive aggressive.

This is manipulative behaviour.

It is designed to coerce.

It is a controlling behaviour.

Is your self esteem so low that you think this in any way acceptable behaviour from him.

Walk away. There is nothing positive about this relationship.

No clue but I'd never heard of Ian whatsisname but just googled him and he's pretty lush

You need to watch the vampires diaries. Very cheesy so don't need the sound on but he's in that and you won't be disappointed

It is ridiculous for anyone to look at themselves in reflections a lot and bad taste too. Immature. What is his conversation like? Stimulating?

We need a picture to confirm he looks like Ian somerhalder.

if exact replica…. I say keeper 😅

Such a familiar style

😂

You’re nearly 30 & too old for this nonsense.

And you don’t need him to agree to cutting him off

Read your OP back to yourself imagining your best friend is posting
What would you advise her to do?
Do that
Get rid obviously

Run

I know, right? I mean, he seems absolutely wonderful and the relationship seems so healthy and fulfilling.

You asked if he is obsessive and also if he is narcissistic, people are telling you that he is.

He sounds awful op.

Ian Somerhalder stated in an interview he flushed his wife’s contraceptive pills.

Troll, however incase she’s not I want to see a pic 😅

Others have pointed out his behaviour is controlling so I won't repeat. The reflection checking is probably the least of your concerns to be honest.

Think about it this way - in the early stages of a relationship there shouldn't be issues with him sulking and being passive aggressive, blocking you etc. Some of that happened before you were even dating from the sounds of it. He's testing you - trying to see what you'll let him get away with.

If you stay with him, he'll push those boundaries more and more. You might not notice straight away because it'll be gradual. But then one day you'll realise that you no longer trust your own judgement, believe that you're the cause of all the issues in the relationship and be so thankful that he loves you in spite of that. And then boom, you're completely dependent on him and your life outside of him will disappear.

Please, please dump him now. And please do some research about coercive control (Women's Aid and Refuge are good starting points). I'd suggest you consider talking to a counsellor or something to try and work on your self confidence and self esteem, you need to strengthen your boundaries before you get involved in a relationship with anyone.

I'm glad you reported. I don't believe this is a real person. It sounds like it's written by a robot.

Red flags:
He's passive aggressive.
He punished you for disagreeing with him (cut you off)
He sulks when he doesn't get sex
He's vain
He's insecure
He's is obsessive - 2 years of pursuit is beyond creepy.

He could be the most handsome man in the world. He's still an abusive creepy wanker.

What is cab?

MARRY HIM!! You sound like a great match,

P.S- Obvs reported. Cutting and pasting the same comment is just lazy trolling, do better.

Such an obvious troll. Leave them to it. This isn't even particularly good trolling. It's pretty dull