New boyfriend keeps looking?

[Pykyek]

At himself in mirrors, reflective surfaces and mobile phone reflection ?

He does this a lot. Hes cute and some of his friends even say that he kinda resembles Ian somerhalder but I don't understand the obsession of constantly looking at himself?

Is this low self esteem or narcissistic?

I cut him off but he didn't.
He removed me from his contacts but still kept talking to me in person

That's not insecure op it's controlling.

Too often we make that mistake.

We think 'why wpuld I qct that way...maybe it's insecurity'.

It's bloody well not.

"I tried to cur him off but he never agreed". You're dealing with a narcissist.

In future btw - no means no. If you want to cut contact, do so. Tell them.to leave you alone and block them on everything. If they keep finding ways to contact you (let alone for 2 years!) Do not reply. If they continue, it's harassment, go to the police.

I dont want to diagnose anyone tbh

Hello

Vanity

I was going to suggest insecurity , I used to be called vain a lot because I would spend ages staring in the mirror but I was actually very insecure and I was petrified of there being something “wrong” with my appearance so I would literally look into every reflection I could find to check myself , like car mirrors
people don’t think of men having this issue but it does happen

to add narcissistic people also have deep insecurities so it can be both …

If he is rejected sexually he becomes sulky and passive aggressive but wont let go of the girl. He did this with me for 2 years that despite me.not wanting to.hook up, he kept contact with me , even if it meant talking for just a few minutes for 2 years. I had tried to cut him off but he never agreed

He never 'agreed'?? That's harassment. Why on earth are you with him??? Did you really have no other good options??????

To answer your question-Looking at your reflection all the time just means you're very preoccupied with your appearance. This might be because you really like how you look, but equally it could be that you don't and are a little obsessed with checking that you don't look too awful. In some cases it starts as one of these then just becomes a habit. It doesnt have to indicate anything sinister if the person is otherwise fine. However, your guy has other red flags so the mirror thing is the least of your worries.

Fuck me sideways, this is an annoying thread.

Found the pics! Yeah total keeper

Here's my opinion. You've described your boyfriend and his actions. I think his actions aren't normal. He likes to keep women around "he won't let go ..." as you've quoted, because he wants constant attention. That's not healthy and it's not your job to fix him.

He’s vain and sounds controlling to me. He won’t take no for an answer, that’s a major red flag in a guy. What made you change your mind about giving him a go after 2 years?

He sounds like the type of guy who’s been on dating apps and “single” for years. You could think it’s a coincidence that you’re single at the same time or he just hasn’t met the right person yet. In reality he’s not capable of a relationship and the women with high self esteem don’t want him, while those with low self esteem get strung along and treated badly. It sounds like he’s hot but everything else you’ve said is a massive ick (at best!)

Are you actually looking for a relationship? Do you want to be happy? If not, keep dating this man.

Whichever it is, it is profoundly unattractive. He won't change.

He did say hes not looking for anything but kept talking to me even though I didn't want to and finally said he wants something and was acting like tis as I rejected him for a hook up