Should I tell the wife?

[Bahbahh]

What would you do?!

I’ve seen a guy who I know is married on a hookup site. I don’t know him or his wife very well, I know them through my brother as they all went to church together for years.

Now I’m not sure if his relationship is open, they were very very religious when I last saw them (couple years back) so I’m not certain she would be open to something like that but who knows. He has listed he is interested in discreet affairs but I don’t want to assume.

My question is would you tell his wife? I feel like it’s not really any of my business and I don’t want to stir up unnecessary drama in case she’s aware of it but I also would want to know if my husband was cheating and I was her. Help!

I would send him a message saying oh, it's nice to see you on here, I didn't realise you were divorced. This is reminding me to catch up with your wife

I'd want to know if my husband's cheating on me!

God no. Stay out of it. Obviously.

I'd just let other people we mutually know the details and let them do the rest.

@Behindthelines
i do actually, she was constantly trying to get my family and I to join their church for years.

It sounds like you barely know this couple. I would stay out of it in this situation. It's not your business.

Well, I'm shocked to see these responses. I would want to know if it was me!

I say tell her.

Absolutely not. You don't know them and you have no idea what is their situation.

Screenshot it and send a picture to a friends phone who she doesn’t know then get them to send them the picture to her then the friends can block her. I would want to know and I would accommodate this.

I’d definitely want to know. Just drop her a message. She can do what she wants with the information..

Double them!

@kissthegirlshesnotbehindthedoor

Yeah personally I would want to know either way but that’s just me.

I would want to know

Speaking as somebody who found their H on a dating website I would want to know. When I found him on there I hated the fact that other people who knew us may have seen him there already and I was the idiot who didn't know. It has caused us to split up even if he never met up with anybody (I have no idea if her did or not) just the fact he was looking was enough for me. It has been devastating but I still would rather have known than be the twat left in the dark.

Does it matter? He is looking, that was enough to kill my marriage. May be she may choose to stay, maybe not but it should be her choice. A church goer too? Would have hoped for better morals.

@Behindthelines I had suspicions and checked his laptop and found the link. It was a year ago now and a year that has been very hard. For me he may as well had a full blown affair (maybe he did I don't know) but the damage is done, the trust has gone.

@Behindthelines

It’s not a site for affairs. What people mention they’re looking for is out of my control.

@Behindthelines No we split for around 6 months when it happened and then got back together for a few months but the trust was gone and we are now separated. It has been a horrible time because you think well it wasn't a full blown affair but still enough to kill the trust. and make you feel like you are not enough.