Should I tell the wife?

[Bahbahh]

What would you do?!

I’ve seen a guy who I know is married on a hookup site. I don’t know him or his wife very well, I know them through my brother as they all went to church together for years.

Now I’m not sure if his relationship is open, they were very very religious when I last saw them (couple years back) so I’m not certain she would be open to something like that but who knows. He has listed he is interested in discreet affairs but I don’t want to assume.

My question is would you tell his wife? I feel like it’s not really any of my business and I don’t want to stir up unnecessary drama in case she’s aware of it but I also would want to know if my husband was cheating and I was her. Help!

I'd hand on heart want to know.

What he is doing is either ok with the wife in which case no harm done or evil in which case I'll remind you all of this quote: “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”

You don't need to be best mates to call it out, you just need to be a decent human being.

If you don't know her very well, mind your own business. You'd come across as some drama seeking shit stirrer. If you know any of her better friends let them do it.

@AgnesX

I feel like that’s worse no? Involving her friends too when she might not want them to know.

I once got a message from a girl I didn't know really know about my ex being on a dating website while I was pregnant. She sent me a message with a screenshot of the profile and said something like 'hi, hope you're okay, I'm sorry but I just wanted to send you this because I thought you deserve to know'. Whether he had messaged her or not, I don't know, but I was grateful she told me.

@ComeTheFuckOnBridgett

That’s awful!
That’s effectively what I messaged her

I'm in a similar situation
I did opt to tell the wife carefully with fake account etc and photographic evidence yet got 'oh why would I believe a fake account' so be prepared for the denial even if you do

@newjobnewstartihope

Aah well at least you tried.

I'd want to know, tell her

I’d tell her and I wouldn’t do in anonymously. I’d seek her out, show her what proof you have, tell her you won’t be sharing the information with anyone else but you thought she should know.

I'm another who would want to know. I wouldn't care if it came from someone I hardly knew, I'd just be glad to be told

But make sure you get absolute proof so she believes it and it leaves no doubts for her