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Gaslighting husband OR am I confused?

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beansontoast15 · 12/06/2023 11:33

Husband announced we are going on holiday later this year. Very excited, he knew this. I start looking for holiday clothes, even book 2 weeks off work as annual leave.

8 weeks later, husband announces 'well we're not going on holiday anymore as you weren't acting excited enough, you should have been acting happier and more grateful'

I replied with, well you've already paid a 50% deposit, I was very excited, I'm not going to be jumping up and down about it every day for 8 weeks since you told me?

Turns out he never booked anything, I delete my saved clothes I was buying and cancel leave from work.

A few weeks later, he announces that yes, in fact we are still going on this holiday. I told him, you cancelled it as I wasn't acting how you wanted me to about it?

He denied any of the event ever happened? Completely denies it and tells me I obviously got my wires crossed? Did I f*. I know exactly what happened.

He plays games like this. When we first met, he sent me a booking to a holiday in the maldives, had a countdown on his phone for months, I booked time off work etc etc. 2 weeks before we are due to go, he tells me he has lost the booking, cant find it so we cant go. ...

So many other occasions where he tells me something, I'm excited looking forward to it, and then he takes it away, sometimes because im not deserving enough, or just sometimes because he's an arse?

Why on earth is he playing games like this? What would you do if your husband was like this?

OP posts:
Ffss · 12/12/2023 22:32

What a cruel reply!!

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