Hi, looking for some advice, should be concerned or am I being paranoid.
Me and my husband have been together 5 years and have a DS who is 2. We have a lovely life together.
But recently he told me that if we weren't together he probably would persue a relationship with one of the women he works with. This upset me obviously but we moved pasted it.
However last weekend I found out he had been liking every photo of her on social media, messaging her all the time and then went paddleboarding with her 1-1 and lied to me about it and told me he went with his other friends. Only when backed into a corner did he tell me the truth.
Had it out with him and told him all of this wasn't appropriate and that I'd rather he didn't message her unless about work, not to meet 1-1 with her and no reason for him to be following on social media. He agreed and I thought we'd moved on.
However not even a week later I find out he's been to her house to collect a paddleboard he says, has changed his passcode on his phone and when I challenged why 'because he wants his privacy', he finally uplocked his phone and he has continued to message her and re added her on all social media. But I think what's hurt the most is I found from these messages that he was planning to paddleboarding again today alone with her and lie to me about it.
He swears they are just friends and I am being paranoid but why the lying and secrets?
So am I being paranoid and unreasonable or is all of this not appropriate and he should be spending time with his family and not her.
Any advice appreciated