New man I’m dating and weed use

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I met a new man online 2 months ago, he admitted he smokes weed every evening. I have made it clear that I am not into any drugs at all. He has said he intends to come off it and it was his plan this year to cut it way back. I’ve called it off because I found myself getting feelings for him.
he has asked me to give him 6 months to come off it, he says he can’t commit to coming off it in a few days time but he will get the wheels in motion to start making changes.
he’s asked that we continue to see eachother and is happy to take things super slow while he makes these changes.
he is a very nice man, professional, kind, caring from what I know so far. He does have anxiety and uses the weed for that, he only started smoking weed in his 30s and said no one would know he even does it.
should I give this a chance?

You don't see the problem? He's a criminal.

You're not compatible. He likes drugs you don't. It will be very wearing for both of you

he has asked me to give him 6 months to come off it

This request says a lot about him. He thinks you should waste half a year (where you could be out there dating or not worrying about weed), waiting for him to quit, a person you don't know that well yet, and that you have no commitments to.

He either think he's worth the risk or that your time isn't precious, or he's hoping you will fall in love and will continue stringing you along, or hide his habit .

For one thing @conversationsinthedark , it bloody stinks. Really, really stinks. Grabs onto your clothes, pervades absolutely everything, even your bag. You might think no one can smell it but I can bet your sense of smell has just dulled towards it. The same happens to people who wear the same perfume a lot. Their nose gets desensitised to it as that is what happens to our sense of smell.

OP, I dated a week smoker for 10 years. We split. He couldn’t manage stress and anger and he swore on our child he would quit but never did. Run. I’m telling you - they get really really angry and they don’t do anything around the house. They get aggressive and irrational. The poor memory is also impossible to cope with.

Huge red flag. I can't believe you'd even consider continuing the relationship tbh.

No, weed will always come first, he's already proved that.
Plus it stinks, he will stink, you will stink, eugh, you can smell it a mile off. What a keeper

Not a chance I'd give him a second go. Sorry OP.

Ugh no

You have your bottom line and that's no drugs. Personally, I think you're right to break it off. From my own experience of weed smokers there are long-term effects that are worse than the odd glass of wine in an evening.

If you find smoking weed unattractive and it's not something you're looking for in a partner, then don't date someone who is addicted to smoking weed.

If he needs six months to give up, his motivation to give up is fairly low therefore isn't going to happen.

Ex smoked weed. He is already fobbing you off, they always say they will cut down they don't. Not to mention them eating you out of house and home with munchies, laziness just sleeping half the time, it stinks and the cost of having a daily habit

I'm opposite to most the posters on here. I don't have anything against stoners, weed is being legalised around the world and England is still busy demonising it. I think that behaviour and decision making on alcohol is a lot more dangerous. The issue is that you don't smoke anything so it could be an problem in the long term. I don't drink and I couldn't be with someone that drinks regularly. You have to know yourself and make a quick decision rather than wasting time.

He doesn't intend to come off it and will be a dead loss as a partner.

If Prince Harry is anything to go by, legal or not, it fries your brain cells. And if he is smoking when you're around, won't you be smoking second hand?

This.

stop wasting time on a man youve known 8 bloody weeks! This isnt someone who occasionally smokes. He is an addict. Why choose that life?

Red flag