I instigated our separation early last year. Many years of STBXH being unfaithful. Finding viagra and condoms in his work bag was a final straw. My self esteem went through the floor.
But we had killed our savings the year before with a big kitchen extension and new windows and an unplanned but essential change of car. To sensibly split, we need to sell the house. H refuses to move out. He's in the spare bedroom. I don't want to move out either as H would let the house get to disgusting levels of cleanliness. And I couldn't afford to rent near the kids school - even if they shared a bedroom. And lots of reasons really.
Two primary age children.
The house has been on the market a year - with hardly any viewings. Even cutting the price significantly did bugger all. The problem (according to the estate agents - we have two - got desperate) is that people in the area want new houses - with stamp duty paid etc - and there are two huge new estates nearby. Ours is from 1989 with unfashionable brown wood everywhere and bathrooms which need updating.
What do people do in this situation? Just wait? I just don't know how much longer I can cope with smug but angry H. I'm an increasingly empty person just getting through life.